Hi there! iam curious on my girl, whos she sending sms to. if she flirts with any guy, some kind of signs if shes up to something no good. is it allright to check once in a while hers cell, to see what kind of sms shes been reciving and sending.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I agree, it is stalkerish.oakraiderz2 said:No, dont care. Get your own life.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
QFTBonhomme said:
Why are you worried?Zeus said:Hi there! iam curious on my girl, whos she sending sms to. if she flirts with any guy, some kind of signs if shes up to something no good. is it allright to check once in a while hers cell, to see what kind of sms shes been reciving and sending.
Aint that the truth. I've had girls check my phone, check my emails, listen to voicemail, caller id and everything else that I consider a violation of my privacy. Then they would get carried away with what they did find most of the time.TheOnE111 said:Haha man, dont be the chic in this relationship THEY do things like that. Who the hell cares?! there are plenty of fish in the sea.