"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is it bad when girls say you're cute
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tyson420
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SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
Sweet however is not good.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scars
Master Don Juan
Don't stress about it too much. It's still a compliment none the less. She's telling you that you aren't hideously ugly, so get on it!
-Scars
PapiChulo
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Diaforetikos
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^^^^Scars said:
This!
Plus, we don't know the tonality of her use of the word. She could say it in a, "awe, your cute (adorable) " tone, or a, "oooo, your kinda cute (handsome/hot)" tone. The adorable one can sometimes be good... Sometimes. The handsome/hot tone is almost always good.
****ing attention seekers lol.
I don't think being called cute in a friendly way is good, however if it is said in the right tone....yea why not. They won't exactly call you sexy, it is less embarassing to call you cute and see your response.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MurdocIsGod
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Igetit!
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+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....Sofomore said:
I think the context under which she says it determines if it's a good thing or not.
If you two don't know each other,and she says it to one of her friends talking about you,that's a GOOD thing.
If you two know each other,and she tells one of her friends or someone else she thinks you're cute,that's good as well.
If she DIRECTLY tells you she thinks you cute UNSOLICITED,meaning she told you she thinks you're cute when you haven't done or said ANYTHING to show any type of interest in her,that's GOOD. However....
If she says it DIRECTLY to you as a response to you asking her out,chances are,that's bad.
ANYTIME a woman gives you a compliment when you ask her out,it's generally a bad thing. Like if you ask her out and she goes...
"I think you're great" or
"I think you're really a nice guy" or
"I think you're sweet".........
Basically if you ask a girl out,and her response is to start giving you compliments instead of just saying yes,it's bad. So if she calls you "cute" immediately after asking her out,then yeah,I'd say that's a bad thing.
Personally,I'd rather overhear her telling someone she thinks I'm cute to than for her to say it DIRECTLY to me.
PapiChulo
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Same, except I get called "sweet" by said girl. We fvckin tonight too. Last words she said to me last weekend were, "Awwww, you're so sweet.."MurdocIsGod said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
In2theGame
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Haven't you ever heard a girl say, "There weren't any cute guys." ?
Korrupt
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^This.Igetit! said:
Cute can be good or bad. Depends on the context.
Sweet is only good if you're already in a long term relationship with a girl, otherwise it's ALWAYS bad.
By the way, dead on about girls giving you compliments when you ask them out being bad. I just recently got "you don't need me to get laid" when asking a chick out. Ha. Good brush off. No, I don't NEED you to get laid, but I'm asking you out because I WANT to hang out with you/f*ck you.. B!tch...
BettorOffSingle
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I used to say "Interesting. I slept with the last woman who said that to me."Tyson420 said:
Then leave it to her to escalate or disqualify you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.