"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is it bad when girls say you're cute

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Like cutie or something 8/10 or You look really good for a black guy and you're cute because I heard cute guys get friendzoned.:confused:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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not neccesarily. I mean its more a compliment than anything. Cute guy don't get friend zone. I have been call cute and end screwing the girl. Cute, handsome, good looking are all the same to me. Only chumps get friendzone.
 

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No girl dreams about "cute" boys. Only gay men are into "cute" boys. Girls want men. If they wanted "cute" they would go lesbian.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I don't think I've ever really uttered the word "hot" in reference to a girl, at least not to her face. I almost always use the word cute, and it works for me. Being called cute yourself isn't bad either. Some girls (not many) are a little more classy/conservative (most of the time it's just an act) and don't want to use the words hott or sexy as a compliment. I believe the word you're looking for is handsome. Once you hear that, you're golden brotha.

Don't stress about it too much. It's still a compliment none the less. She's telling you that you aren't hideously ugly, so get on it!

-Scars
 

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Strippers call me cute when giving me lap dances before I pull out em dolla bills. Pulling my shirt up and letting me touch em. Decent looks, plus a good chunk of cash = cute.
 

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Scars said:
I don't think I've ever really uttered the word "hot" in reference to a girl, at least not to her face. I almost always use the word cute, and it works for me. Being called cute yourself isn't bad either. Some girls (not many) are a little more classy/conservative (most of the time it's just an act) and don't want to use the words hott or sexy as a compliment. I believe the word you're looking for is handsome. Once you hear that, you're golden brotha.

Don't stress about it too much. It's still a compliment none the less. She's telling you that you aren't hideously ugly, so get on it!

-Scars
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This!

Plus, we don't know the tonality of her use of the word. She could say it in a, "awe, your cute (adorable) " tone, or a, "oooo, your kinda cute (handsome/hot)" tone. The adorable one can sometimes be good... Sometimes. The handsome/hot tone is almost always good.
 

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I was in a confused state yesterday. I got chatting to this girl in a party who kept coming to talk to me and making conversation, when she wound up telling me "I look like a nice guy" ...... and then introduced me to her boyfriend..........all of this, after she flirted.

****ing attention seekers lol.

I don't think being called cute in a friendly way is good, however if it is said in the right tone....yea why not. They won't exactly call you sexy, it is less embarassing to call you cute and see your response.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lol at some of the responses. I get called cute (as in the sweet puppy dog "cute") by a girl I **** practically every day so yeah...
 

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dude J"Playa" you make some of the dumbest threads, i swear
+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....



I think the context under which she says it determines if it's a good thing or not.




If you two don't know each other,and she says it to one of her friends talking about you,that's a GOOD thing.

If you two know each other,and she tells one of her friends or someone else she thinks you're cute,that's good as well.





If she DIRECTLY tells you she thinks you cute UNSOLICITED,meaning she told you she thinks you're cute when you haven't done or said ANYTHING to show any type of interest in her,that's GOOD. However....




If she says it DIRECTLY to you as a response to you asking her out,chances are,that's bad.





ANYTIME a woman gives you a compliment when you ask her out,it's generally a bad thing. Like if you ask her out and she goes...




"I think you're great" or
"I think you're really a nice guy" or
"I think you're sweet".........



Basically if you ask a girl out,and her response is to start giving you compliments instead of just saying yes,it's bad. So if she calls you "cute" immediately after asking her out,then yeah,I'd say that's a bad thing.



Personally,I'd rather overhear her telling someone she thinks I'm cute to than for her to say it DIRECTLY to me.
 

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It depends on the situation how the word cute can be determined. But i don't think it's a bad thing. One situation could be if ur talking to a girl one on one and she in middle of the conversation says I always thought u were cute, that's a compliment and a good thing because she's basiclly telling u with out putting to much of herself out there that ur ****able in her eyes
 

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Cute in woman speak = hot. Hot is reserved for male equivalent of a bimbo or for use between the girls. It also depends on how a woman perceives herself.
 

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MurdocIsGod said:
Lol at some of the responses. I get called cute (as in the sweet puppy dog "cute") by a girl I **** practically every day so yeah...
Same, except I get called "sweet" by said girl. We fvckin tonight too. Last words she said to me last weekend were, "Awwww, you're so sweet.."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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like most said, depends on the context... also if she says it in a puppy voice like she's complimenting her newfew.... run!
 

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Cute is still good but like others have mentioned it depends on how she's saying it. If its "Aw He's cute" then its ...eh.. not bad but not good. If shes says "Oooo He's CUTE!!" then thats definitely good. As for me, girls usually use hot and sexy lol
 

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Dude are you kidding me? Cute= Hot, Hot=Cute in girl speak. Almost always the same thing.

Haven't you ever heard a girl say, "There weren't any cute guys." ?
 

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+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....



I think the context under which she says it determines if it's a good thing or not.




If you two don't know each other,and she says it to one of her friends talking about you,that's a GOOD thing.

If you two know each other,and she tells one of her friends or someone else she thinks you're cute,that's good as well.





If she DIRECTLY tells you she thinks you cute UNSOLICITED,meaning she told you she thinks you're cute when you haven't done or said ANYTHING to show any type of interest in her,that's GOOD. However....




If she says it DIRECTLY to you as a response to you asking her out,chances are,that's bad.





ANYTIME a woman gives you a compliment when you ask her out,it's generally a bad thing. Like if you ask her out and she goes...




"I think you're great" or
"I think you're really a nice guy" or
"I think you're sweet".........



Basically if you ask a girl out,and her response is to start giving you compliments instead of just saying yes,it's bad. So if she calls you "cute" immediately after asking her out,then yeah,I'd say that's a bad thing.



Personally,I'd rather overhear her telling someone she thinks I'm cute to than for her to say it DIRECTLY to me.
^This.

Cute can be good or bad. Depends on the context.

Sweet is only good if you're already in a long term relationship with a girl, otherwise it's ALWAYS bad.

By the way, dead on about girls giving you compliments when you ask them out being bad. I just recently got "you don't need me to get laid" when asking a chick out. Ha. Good brush off. No, I don't NEED you to get laid, but I'm asking you out because I WANT to hang out with you/f*ck you.. B!tch...
 
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You heard right. Not even girls like being called cute why the **** should you?
I used to say "Interesting. I slept with the last woman who said that to me."

Then leave it to her to escalate or disqualify you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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