Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
^^^^Scars said:I don't think I've ever really uttered the word "hot" in reference to a girl, at least not to her face. I almost always use the word cute, and it works for me. Being called cute yourself isn't bad either. Some girls (not many) are a little more classy/conservative (most of the time it's just an act) and don't want to use the words hott or sexy as a compliment. I believe the word you're looking for is handsome. Once you hear that, you're golden brotha.
Don't stress about it too much. It's still a compliment none the less. She's telling you that you aren't hideously ugly, so get on it!
-Scars
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....Sofomore said:dude J"Playa" you make some of the dumbest threads, i swear
Same, except I get called "sweet" by said girl. We fvckin tonight too. Last words she said to me last weekend were, "Awwww, you're so sweet.."MurdocIsGod said:Lol at some of the responses. I get called cute (as in the sweet puppy dog "cute") by a girl I **** practically every day so yeah...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
^This.Igetit! said:+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....
I think the context under which she says it determines if it's a good thing or not.
If you two don't know each other,and she says it to one of her friends talking about you,that's a GOOD thing.
If you two know each other,and she tells one of her friends or someone else she thinks you're cute,that's good as well.
If she DIRECTLY tells you she thinks you cute UNSOLICITED,meaning she told you she thinks you're cute when you haven't done or said ANYTHING to show any type of interest in her,that's GOOD. However....
If she says it DIRECTLY to you as a response to you asking her out,chances are,that's bad.
ANYTIME a woman gives you a compliment when you ask her out,it's generally a bad thing. Like if you ask her out and she goes...
"I think you're great" or
"I think you're really a nice guy" or
"I think you're sweet".........
Basically if you ask a girl out,and her response is to start giving you compliments instead of just saying yes,it's bad. So if she calls you "cute" immediately after asking her out,then yeah,I'd say that's a bad thing.
Personally,I'd rather overhear her telling someone she thinks I'm cute to than for her to say it DIRECTLY to me.
I used to say "Interesting. I slept with the last woman who said that to me."Tyson420 said:You heard right. Not even girls like being called cute why the **** should you?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.