"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is it bad when girls say you're cute

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Like cutie or something 8/10 or You look really good for a black guy and you're cute because I heard cute guys get friendzoned.:confused:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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not neccesarily. I mean its more a compliment than anything. Cute guy don't get friend zone. I have been call cute and end screwing the girl. Cute, handsome, good looking are all the same to me. Only chumps get friendzone.
 
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No girl dreams about "cute" boys. Only gay men are into "cute" boys. Girls want men. If they wanted "cute" they would go lesbian.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't think I've ever really uttered the word "hot" in reference to a girl, at least not to her face. I almost always use the word cute, and it works for me. Being called cute yourself isn't bad either. Some girls (not many) are a little more classy/conservative (most of the time it's just an act) and don't want to use the words hott or sexy as a compliment. I believe the word you're looking for is handsome. Once you hear that, you're golden brotha.

Don't stress about it too much. It's still a compliment none the less. She's telling you that you aren't hideously ugly, so get on it!

-Scars
 
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Strippers call me cute when giving me lap dances before I pull out em dolla bills. Pulling my shirt up and letting me touch em. Decent looks, plus a good chunk of cash = cute.
 
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Scars said:
I don't think I've ever really uttered the word "hot" in reference to a girl, at least not to her face. I almost always use the word cute, and it works for me. Being called cute yourself isn't bad either. Some girls (not many) are a little more classy/conservative (most of the time it's just an act) and don't want to use the words hott or sexy as a compliment. I believe the word you're looking for is handsome. Once you hear that, you're golden brotha.

Don't stress about it too much. It's still a compliment none the less. She's telling you that you aren't hideously ugly, so get on it!

-Scars
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This!

Plus, we don't know the tonality of her use of the word. She could say it in a, "awe, your cute (adorable) " tone, or a, "oooo, your kinda cute (handsome/hot)" tone. The adorable one can sometimes be good... Sometimes. The handsome/hot tone is almost always good.
 
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I was in a confused state yesterday. I got chatting to this girl in a party who kept coming to talk to me and making conversation, when she wound up telling me "I look like a nice guy" ...... and then introduced me to her boyfriend..........all of this, after she flirted.

****ing attention seekers lol.

I don't think being called cute in a friendly way is good, however if it is said in the right tone....yea why not. They won't exactly call you sexy, it is less embarassing to call you cute and see your response.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Lol at some of the responses. I get called cute (as in the sweet puppy dog "cute") by a girl I **** practically every day so yeah...
 
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dude J"Playa" you make some of the dumbest threads, i swear
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+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....



I think the context under which she says it determines if it's a good thing or not.




If you two don't know each other,and she says it to one of her friends talking about you,that's a GOOD thing.

If you two know each other,and she tells one of her friends or someone else she thinks you're cute,that's good as well.





If she DIRECTLY tells you she thinks you cute UNSOLICITED,meaning she told you she thinks you're cute when you haven't done or said ANYTHING to show any type of interest in her,that's GOOD. However....




If she says it DIRECTLY to you as a response to you asking her out,chances are,that's bad.





ANYTIME a woman gives you a compliment when you ask her out,it's generally a bad thing. Like if you ask her out and she goes...




"I think you're great" or
"I think you're really a nice guy" or
"I think you're sweet".........



Basically if you ask a girl out,and her response is to start giving you compliments instead of just saying yes,it's bad. So if she calls you "cute" immediately after asking her out,then yeah,I'd say that's a bad thing.



Personally,I'd rather overhear her telling someone she thinks I'm cute to than for her to say it DIRECTLY to me.
 
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It depends on the situation how the word cute can be determined. But i don't think it's a bad thing. One situation could be if ur talking to a girl one on one and she in middle of the conversation says I always thought u were cute, that's a compliment and a good thing because she's basiclly telling u with out putting to much of herself out there that ur ****able in her eyes
 
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Cute in woman speak = hot. Hot is reserved for male equivalent of a bimbo or for use between the girls. It also depends on how a woman perceives herself.
 
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Lol at some of the responses. I get called cute (as in the sweet puppy dog "cute") by a girl I **** practically every day so yeah...
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Same, except I get called "sweet" by said girl. We fvckin tonight too. Last words she said to me last weekend were, "Awwww, you're so sweet.."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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like most said, depends on the context... also if she says it in a puppy voice like she's complimenting her newfew.... run!
 
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Cute is still good but like others have mentioned it depends on how she's saying it. If its "Aw He's cute" then its ...eh.. not bad but not good. If shes says "Oooo He's CUTE!!" then thats definitely good. As for me, girls usually use hot and sexy lol
 
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Dude are you kidding me? Cute= Hot, Hot=Cute in girl speak. Almost always the same thing.

Haven't you ever heard a girl say, "There weren't any cute guys." ?
 
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+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....



I think the context under which she says it determines if it's a good thing or not.




If you two don't know each other,and she says it to one of her friends talking about you,that's a GOOD thing.

If you two know each other,and she tells one of her friends or someone else she thinks you're cute,that's good as well.





If she DIRECTLY tells you she thinks you cute UNSOLICITED,meaning she told you she thinks you're cute when you haven't done or said ANYTHING to show any type of interest in her,that's GOOD. However....




If she says it DIRECTLY to you as a response to you asking her out,chances are,that's bad.





ANYTIME a woman gives you a compliment when you ask her out,it's generally a bad thing. Like if you ask her out and she goes...




"I think you're great" or
"I think you're really a nice guy" or
"I think you're sweet".........



Basically if you ask a girl out,and her response is to start giving you compliments instead of just saying yes,it's bad. So if she calls you "cute" immediately after asking her out,then yeah,I'd say that's a bad thing.



Personally,I'd rather overhear her telling someone she thinks I'm cute to than for her to say it DIRECTLY to me.
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^This.

Cute can be good or bad. Depends on the context.

Sweet is only good if you're already in a long term relationship with a girl, otherwise it's ALWAYS bad.

By the way, dead on about girls giving you compliments when you ask them out being bad. I just recently got "you don't need me to get laid" when asking a chick out. Ha. Good brush off. No, I don't NEED you to get laid, but I'm asking you out because I WANT to hang out with you/f*ck you.. B!tch...
 
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You heard right. Not even girls like being called cute why the **** should you?
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I used to say "Interesting. I slept with the last woman who said that to me."

Then leave it to her to escalate or disqualify you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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