"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is it bad when girls say you're cute
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tyson420
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SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
Sweet however is not good.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Scars
Master Don Juan
Don't stress about it too much. It's still a compliment none the less. She's telling you that you aren't hideously ugly, so get on it!
-Scars
PapiChulo
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Diaforetikos
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^^^^Scars said:
This!
Plus, we don't know the tonality of her use of the word. She could say it in a, "awe, your cute (adorable) " tone, or a, "oooo, your kinda cute (handsome/hot)" tone. The adorable one can sometimes be good... Sometimes. The handsome/hot tone is almost always good.
****ing attention seekers lol.
I don't think being called cute in a friendly way is good, however if it is said in the right tone....yea why not. They won't exactly call you sexy, it is less embarassing to call you cute and see your response.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Igetit!
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+1 rep.......however,it's 6:30 in the morning,so I'll drop in my two copper heads....Sofomore said:
I think the context under which she says it determines if it's a good thing or not.
If you two don't know each other,and she says it to one of her friends talking about you,that's a GOOD thing.
If you two know each other,and she tells one of her friends or someone else she thinks you're cute,that's good as well.
If she DIRECTLY tells you she thinks you cute UNSOLICITED,meaning she told you she thinks you're cute when you haven't done or said ANYTHING to show any type of interest in her,that's GOOD. However....
If she says it DIRECTLY to you as a response to you asking her out,chances are,that's bad.
ANYTIME a woman gives you a compliment when you ask her out,it's generally a bad thing. Like if you ask her out and she goes...
"I think you're great" or
"I think you're really a nice guy" or
"I think you're sweet".........
Basically if you ask a girl out,and her response is to start giving you compliments instead of just saying yes,it's bad. So if she calls you "cute" immediately after asking her out,then yeah,I'd say that's a bad thing.
Personally,I'd rather overhear her telling someone she thinks I'm cute to than for her to say it DIRECTLY to me.
PapiChulo
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Same, except I get called "sweet" by said girl. We fvckin tonight too. Last words she said to me last weekend were, "Awwww, you're so sweet.."MurdocIsGod said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
In2theGame
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Haven't you ever heard a girl say, "There weren't any cute guys." ?
Korrupt
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^This.Igetit! said:
Cute can be good or bad. Depends on the context.
Sweet is only good if you're already in a long term relationship with a girl, otherwise it's ALWAYS bad.
By the way, dead on about girls giving you compliments when you ask them out being bad. I just recently got "you don't need me to get laid" when asking a chick out. Ha. Good brush off. No, I don't NEED you to get laid, but I'm asking you out because I WANT to hang out with you/f*ck you.. B!tch...
BettorOffSingle
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I used to say "Interesting. I slept with the last woman who said that to me."Tyson420 said:
Then leave it to her to escalate or disqualify you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.