Here's an interesting research article I found on this topic:
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Wow...talk about SILLY generalizations.....rakishness said:Interesting article. But some of it is a bit obvious. It seems like a lot of studies these days just regurgitate common sense knowledge. Like recently I heard there was a five year study that concluded that men and women have sex for the same reasons: because it feels good. LOL!!! It took those fools five years to figure that out?!?
Good article..BUT.....Lets not make SILLY generalizations about intelligent men(nerds).
BTW....this seems like a very popular topic here on Sosuave. I think the main reason for this is that many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
Think about it. Would some jock ever find this website????? Not in a million years Would some nerd???? More likely
Cheers
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.By the age of 19, 80% of US males and 75% of women have lost their virginity, and 87% of college students have had sex.
very insightfulAlso, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.Obsidian said:that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.
yeah, but you can still have sex at 18 and be with one person all your life was my point. I thought you were taking a pop at age and so called bad decisions.Obsidian said:I don't care much about how you guys want to live your lives, but for an LTR, I'd prefer to date/marry a virgin. If 75% of the girls are masculine hors, then that cuts down on my supply.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think you struck on a key point. I think the survey was good but it also should have looked at the student's social lives. I'd love to see a plot of number of friends for each IQ segment.Bible_Belt said:Also, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
that's way too high an estimate reading the posts I read. probably between 90-105I'm guessing the median IQ of all Internet users is probably 115-120.
how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...The Juan and only said:Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.
Age don't mean sh1t. If you deny yourself the fun and frolic of learning about sex when you're 19, you are a fvckin fool and you'll regret it on your deathbed.
To me, you sound jealous more than anything. Sort it out obsidian, you often give good advice man.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Street_Fighter said:how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...
Well it hasnt helped mine...Bonhomme said:I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
That's b/c intelligent people tend to be more liberal in mindset.Bonhomme said:I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.