Here's an interesting research article I found on this topic:
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Wow...talk about SILLY generalizations.....rakishness said:Interesting article. But some of it is a bit obvious. It seems like a lot of studies these days just regurgitate common sense knowledge. Like recently I heard there was a five year study that concluded that men and women have sex for the same reasons: because it feels good. LOL!!! It took those fools five years to figure that out?!?
Good article..BUT.....Lets not make SILLY generalizations about intelligent men(nerds).
BTW....this seems like a very popular topic here on Sosuave. I think the main reason for this is that many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
Think about it. Would some jock ever find this website????? Not in a million years Would some nerd???? More likely
Cheers
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.By the age of 19, 80% of US males and 75% of women have lost their virginity, and 87% of college students have had sex.
very insightfulAlso, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.Obsidian said:that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.
yeah, but you can still have sex at 18 and be with one person all your life was my point. I thought you were taking a pop at age and so called bad decisions.Obsidian said:I don't care much about how you guys want to live your lives, but for an LTR, I'd prefer to date/marry a virgin. If 75% of the girls are masculine hors, then that cuts down on my supply.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I think you struck on a key point. I think the survey was good but it also should have looked at the student's social lives. I'd love to see a plot of number of friends for each IQ segment.Bible_Belt said:Also, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
that's way too high an estimate reading the posts I read. probably between 90-105I'm guessing the median IQ of all Internet users is probably 115-120.
how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...The Juan and only said:Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.
Age don't mean sh1t. If you deny yourself the fun and frolic of learning about sex when you're 19, you are a fvckin fool and you'll regret it on your deathbed.
To me, you sound jealous more than anything. Sort it out obsidian, you often give good advice man.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Street_Fighter said:how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...
Well it hasnt helped mine...Bonhomme said:I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
That's b/c intelligent people tend to be more liberal in mindset.Bonhomme said:I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.