Here's an interesting research article I found on this topic:
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Wow...talk about SILLY generalizations.....rakishness said:Interesting article. But some of it is a bit obvious. It seems like a lot of studies these days just regurgitate common sense knowledge. Like recently I heard there was a five year study that concluded that men and women have sex for the same reasons: because it feels good. LOL!!! It took those fools five years to figure that out?!?
Good article..BUT.....Lets not make SILLY generalizations about intelligent men(nerds).
BTW....this seems like a very popular topic here on Sosuave. I think the main reason for this is that many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
Think about it. Would some jock ever find this website????? Not in a million years Would some nerd???? More likely
Cheers
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.By the age of 19, 80% of US males and 75% of women have lost their virginity, and 87% of college students have had sex.
very insightfulAlso, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.Obsidian said:that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.
yeah, but you can still have sex at 18 and be with one person all your life was my point. I thought you were taking a pop at age and so called bad decisions.Obsidian said:I don't care much about how you guys want to live your lives, but for an LTR, I'd prefer to date/marry a virgin. If 75% of the girls are masculine hors, then that cuts down on my supply.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think you struck on a key point. I think the survey was good but it also should have looked at the student's social lives. I'd love to see a plot of number of friends for each IQ segment.Bible_Belt said:Also, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
that's way too high an estimate reading the posts I read. probably between 90-105I'm guessing the median IQ of all Internet users is probably 115-120.
how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...The Juan and only said:Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.
Age don't mean sh1t. If you deny yourself the fun and frolic of learning about sex when you're 19, you are a fvckin fool and you'll regret it on your deathbed.
To me, you sound jealous more than anything. Sort it out obsidian, you often give good advice man.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Street_Fighter said:how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...
Well it hasnt helped mine...Bonhomme said:I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
That's b/c intelligent people tend to be more liberal in mindset.Bonhomme said:I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.