"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Intercourse and Intelligence

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Interesting article. But some of it is a bit obvious. It seems like a lot of studies these days just regurgitate common sense knowledge. Like recently I heard there was a five year study that concluded that men and women have sex for the same reasons: because it feels good. LOL!!! It took those fools five years to figure that out?!?

Good article..BUT.....Lets not make SILLY generalizations about intelligent men(nerds).

BTW....this seems like a very popular topic here on Sosuave. I think the main reason for this is that many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
Think about it. Would some jock ever find this website????? Not in a million years Would some nerd???? More likely

Cheers
 

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rakishness said:
Interesting article. But some of it is a bit obvious. It seems like a lot of studies these days just regurgitate common sense knowledge. Like recently I heard there was a five year study that concluded that men and women have sex for the same reasons: because it feels good. LOL!!! It took those fools five years to figure that out?!?

Good article..BUT.....Lets not make SILLY generalizations about intelligent men(nerds).

BTW....this seems like a very popular topic here on Sosuave. I think the main reason for this is that many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
Think about it. Would some jock ever find this website????? Not in a million years Would some nerd???? More likely

Cheers
Wow...talk about SILLY generalizations.....:rolleyes:
 

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Intelligent people consider the consequences of their actions much more closely. That's why they tend to not end up in jail. It's the same with sex. Also, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate. Finally, people with higher IQs tend to have careers and financial success; maybe the chances of derailing those objectives with an unwanted child keeps them from being more promiscuous.

many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.

I'm guessing the median IQ of all Internet users is probably 115-120. That difference is huge if you looked at the two shifted bell curves side-by-side. The small amount of money it takes to afford a computer and Internet connection is out of reach of the poorest people; this eliminates many people with lower IQs - they tend to have low incomes.
 

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Intelligent men get laid all the time, and there are plenty of stupid virgins - but I would suggest that intelligent men are also the ones most likely to be familiar with feminism and thus ashamed of their sexuality.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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By the age of 19, 80% of US males and 75% of women have lost their virginity, and 87% of college students have had sex.
that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.


Also, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
very insightful
 

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Obsidian said:
that's kinda sad. The whole country is made up of hors.
Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.

Age don't mean sh1t. If you deny yourself the fun and frolic of learning about sex when you're 19, you are a fvckin fool and you'll regret it on your deathbed.

To me, you sound jealous more than anything. Sort it out obsidian, you often give good advice man.
 

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I don't care much about how you guys want to live your lives, but for an LTR, I'd prefer to date/marry a virgin. If 75% of the girls are masculine hors, then that cuts down on my supply.
 

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Obsidian said:
I don't care much about how you guys want to live your lives, but for an LTR, I'd prefer to date/marry a virgin. If 75% of the girls are masculine hors, then that cuts down on my supply.
yeah, but you can still have sex at 18 and be with one person all your life was my point. I thought you were taking a pop at age and so called bad decisions.

I know what you're saying. Having one partner your whole life is a perfectly valid, if not very healthy way to live.
 

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Not suprising. More intelligent people will be more concerned of the negative outcome of their actions. Also, these same people are looking more long term than the average joe. No offense intended.

However, this doesn't mean that a generally healthy and intelligent person does not desire sex any less. Our smart people are generally less athletic and don't appear immediately as potential partners.

This in my opinion is one of the few things that you can change. Consider that if you improve your body with a little exercise, and compliment it with good converstation (sometimes it takes practice) and intelligence. You have the making of very desireable person.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bible_Belt said:
Also, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate.
I think you struck on a key point. I think the survey was good but it also should have looked at the student's social lives. I'd love to see a plot of number of friends for each IQ segment.
 

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Intelligent men get laid all the time. Geeky ones not so much. Professors do get laid, and so do artists and writers, but not if they are shy and asexual. You don't need a similar IQ to make an emotional connection with someone. Blaming your supposed smarts for your lack of success with women is a comfortable illusion.
 

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Another thing that survey leaves out is race. These elite colleges they sampled from are disproportionately Asian. Asians are the least promiscuous of all groups as a whole, so I'm sure that's got to factor into the numbers.
 

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I'm guessing the median IQ of all Internet users is probably 115-120.
that's way too high an estimate reading the posts I read. probably between 90-105
 

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The Juan and only said:
Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.

Age don't mean sh1t. If you deny yourself the fun and frolic of learning about sex when you're 19, you are a fvckin fool and you'll regret it on your deathbed.

To me, you sound jealous more than anything. Sort it out obsidian, you often give good advice man.
how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Street_Fighter said:
how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...


I've thought this same exact thing. I think with the younger crowd pressure has a lot to do with it. I guarantee you that most girls that age had sex with a guy because she thought that's what she was supposed to do.
 

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I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
 

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Bonhomme said:
I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
That's b/c intelligent people tend to be more liberal in mindset.
 

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the reason intelligent men don't get laid is because they are all on fourms like this one, talking, researching and debating on why they can't get laid
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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