Here's an interesting research article I found on this topic:
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligence.php
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Intercourse and Intelligence
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Interesting article. But some of it is a bit obvious. It seems like a lot of studies these days just regurgitate common sense knowledge. Like recently I heard there was a five year study that concluded that men and women have sex for the same reasons: because it feels good. LOL!!! It took those fools five years to figure that out?!?
Good article..BUT.....Lets not make SILLY generalizations about intelligent men(nerds).
BTW....this seems like a very popular topic here on Sosuave. I think the main reason for this is that many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
Think about it. Would some jock ever find this website????? Not in a million years Would some nerd???? More likely
Cheers
Good article..BUT.....Lets not make SILLY generalizations about intelligent men(nerds).
BTW....this seems like a very popular topic here on Sosuave. I think the main reason for this is that many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
Think about it. Would some jock ever find this website????? Not in a million years Would some nerd???? More likely
Cheers
OregonDuckJuan
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Wow...talk about SILLY generalizations.....rakishness said:
Bible_Belt
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Intelligent people consider the consequences of their actions much more closely. That's why they tend to not end up in jail. It's the same with sex. Also, people who are smart tend to have fewer people with whom they make an emotional connection; if you're at either end of the bell curve, there are simply fewer people to whom you can relate. Finally, people with higher IQs tend to have careers and financial success; maybe the chances of derailing those objectives with an unwanted child keeps them from being more promiscuous.
many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
I'm guessing the median IQ of all Internet users is probably 115-120. That difference is huge if you looked at the two shifted bell curves side-by-side. The small amount of money it takes to afford a computer and Internet connection is out of reach of the poorest people; this eliminates many people with lower IQs - they tend to have low incomes.
many of the people who come to Sosuave are intelligent.
I'm guessing the median IQ of all Internet users is probably 115-120. That difference is huge if you looked at the two shifted bell curves side-by-side. The small amount of money it takes to afford a computer and Internet connection is out of reach of the poorest people; this eliminates many people with lower IQs - they tend to have low incomes.
Intelligent men get laid all the time, and there are plenty of stupid virgins - but I would suggest that intelligent men are also the ones most likely to be familiar with feminism and thus ashamed of their sexuality.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The Juan and only
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Why shouldn't people do what makes them happy? I know many of my friends who had sex at 19, and are still with, and married to the one and same girl.Obsidian said:
Age don't mean sh1t. If you deny yourself the fun and frolic of learning about sex when you're 19, you are a fvckin fool and you'll regret it on your deathbed.
To me, you sound jealous more than anything. Sort it out obsidian, you often give good advice man.
The Juan and only
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yeah, but you can still have sex at 18 and be with one person all your life was my point. I thought you were taking a pop at age and so called bad decisions.Obsidian said:
I know what you're saying. Having one partner your whole life is a perfectly valid, if not very healthy way to live.
Not suprising. More intelligent people will be more concerned of the negative outcome of their actions. Also, these same people are looking more long term than the average joe. No offense intended.
However, this doesn't mean that a generally healthy and intelligent person does not desire sex any less. Our smart people are generally less athletic and don't appear immediately as potential partners.
This in my opinion is one of the few things that you can change. Consider that if you improve your body with a little exercise, and compliment it with good converstation (sometimes it takes practice) and intelligence. You have the making of very desireable person.
However, this doesn't mean that a generally healthy and intelligent person does not desire sex any less. Our smart people are generally less athletic and don't appear immediately as potential partners.
This in my opinion is one of the few things that you can change. Consider that if you improve your body with a little exercise, and compliment it with good converstation (sometimes it takes practice) and intelligence. You have the making of very desireable person.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Intelligent men get laid all the time. Geeky ones not so much. Professors do get laid, and so do artists and writers, but not if they are shy and asexual. You don't need a similar IQ to make an emotional connection with someone. Blaming your supposed smarts for your lack of success with women is a comfortable illusion.
Another thing that survey leaves out is race. These elite colleges they sampled from are disproportionately Asian. Asians are the least promiscuous of all groups as a whole, so I'm sure that's got to factor into the numbers.
backbreaker
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that's way too high an estimate reading the posts I read. probably between 90-105
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how many of those kids had sex out of desire and how many just did it to get it over with or felt like they were pressured into having sex? that's the sad part.Not your friends,but the other 13-19 year olds.Theres alot of pressure on both sides of the fence...The Juan and only said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
knglerxt
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Street_Fighter said:
I've thought this same exact thing. I think with the younger crowd pressure has a lot to do with it. I guarantee you that most girls that age had sex with a guy because she thought that's what she was supposed to do.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
I've read that the tendency to have "casual" sex increases with intelligence.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
the reason intelligent men don't get laid is because they are all on fourms like this one, talking, researching and debating on why they can't get laid
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.