I'm used to women saying how rough my hands are. I'd feel a little offended if a woman told me I have soft hands. Sometimes when they start asking questions getting to specific about something they don't need to know about yet, especially because I think that it's going to scare them off I just say "oh it's a long story". Works pretty good.UPDATE: made some changes and had a first date that went very well yesterday...out on a trail hiking and then for some ice cream...made out multiple times, offered to have a drink at my place which was only a few minutes away and she said she would love to another time but not on the first date, but she said she liked that I asked her.
I teased her, was fun and flirty but didn't give away a whole lot about me...I either cut the thread and changed the topic or told her we would get back to that later and then came back and gave a brief answer before switching again.
At one point we were walking and I reached back to grab her hand to help her up a tough area and she took it, and then I let it linger lightly to see what she would do and she not only kept holding it, she interlaced her fingers with mine and held it for about 2 or 3 minutes until I pulled it away and accused her of trying to get frisky. She then told me how soft my hands were and how nice they would probably feel if I was massaging her.
She is out of the area til this weekend on a solo camping trip so I will likely be seeing her again next week...
I needed that to get myself a recent example of what works for me.