"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Any of you guys feel that way?
Back in The 2000s, The OGs around me were emphatic: "Avoid mixing booze and sex with women you've just met.... It's remarkably easy for a gal to claim r-pe afterwards". The barbarically forgotten Asa Baber counseled men similarly in his Playboy column during The 80s

This isn't new, and while I support changing some aspects of our legal system which essentially remove the burden of proof off of the state, there will NEVER be a day where bedding drunk chicks at bars isn't a foolish move
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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To add, I am in male/female support group once a week and a few of the guys stated they are now somewhat nervous about sexually escalating especially while drinking due to the Cornell 7 case.

Even when she consents! And also are more nervous cold approaching as well

It's lowered their trust and wouid simply rather avoid than to risk exactly what's happening in Cornell 7.

It's something they think about whereas prior to, they weren't concerned at all.

Any of you guys feel that way?
Tbh, I have no idea what the advice or takeaways would be to protect yourself and not end up in situations like this.
 

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Any of you guys feel that way?
No. Finding the right woman is in the long term existential.

Tbh, I have no idea what the advice or takeaways would be to protect yourself and not end up in situations like this.
The only thing I can think of is just be a good judge of character.
 

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No. Finding the right woman is in the long term existential.



The only thing I can think of is just be a good judge of character.
I get what you’re saying, but check out how fast see switched up once she wasn’t invited to that party.

“Nothing was illegal, i luv u king” -> “You aren’t my friend, you’re covering your ass” -> rape charge.

I suppose you could say, you see who people really are when they don’t get what they want, when things are inconvenient for them, or they’re met with a boundary.
 

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I get what you’re saying, but check out how fast see switched up once she wasn’t invited to that party.

“Nothing was illegal, i luv u king” -> “You aren’t my friend, you’re covering your ass” -> rape charge.

I suppose you could say, you see who people really are when they don’t get what they want, when things are inconvenient for them, or they’re met with a boundary.
Back when I had roommates, I used to leave a five dollar bill laying on a table, just to see if someone would take it.

I also believe that enforcing honest boundaries also acts as a filter for the kind of people you want to have around. Of course I wouldn't know what to tell you about passive aggressive people.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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