"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm About To Snap!!!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Do you have any idea how important dress is in the game? Ask yourself what do women love to do during their free time. Shop. Go look at the number of style and dress magazines that are on the shelves for women to look at. Then look at the number of programs that do make overs for women and men that women watch.
Now take a look at the car you drive and hopefully your not one of those nerdy types that drive a scion box car and wear white socks and black shoes and white shirts with a parted hair do and glasses dog.
What attracted you to that car? The look more than likely if your like any redblooded young man in America.
Watch womens eyes when they walk by a shoe store. They are attracted to the look of shoes. The form. The styling.
Women are very very visual when it comes to dress and they love a sharp dressed man. Even in your culture they do. The azn playa's who are pimps...how do they dress...you got it.
Why do they dress this way?
Because they know the minds of women and they are using womens own shyt against them.
Now as for inner game. This should never be discounted.
If you only had inner game that was strong and confident...you wouldn't be on a site like this. You would be busy dating lots of hot women.
They asn guys who get lots of white girls have strong inner game and do not have the typical azn hang ups and they have left all that family programming behind.
What happens to pua's who get comfortable yelling their scripts in a females face? Their inner game grows because they feel confident in the number system and the routines they do.
As for energy:
Everything is energy which breaks down into vibration.
You ever hear a woman say "he just didn't feel right to me?" Women can tap into the vib level of men and pick up the weak ones in 5 seconds. They can smell your fear on you.
I say this from over 20 years experience in the game of gaming women. I know women.
Yes Chrisz could of learned this and how to take advantage of it somewhere else. He could of went to a site on inner game. Then another site on dressing cool. Then another on getting the right attitude. Then another on learning the metaphysics of the game and so on and so on.
But I think you know where I am going with this.
pz
Although I don't completely agree with Supreme on everything I can tell you that his podcasts and feedback helped me out a lot and opened my eyes to a lot of things while most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.AznPlaya said:
The more you work on this "basic ****" the easier the game gets...
DonJoseCantosie
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What did you create, i know u teaching the fundamentals and that is all you need but im really interested in more than dressin good, and inner game and all that **** ya dig. And most the sht u say is right but somtimes i think u get a lil stereotypical maybe.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The forums are almost useless for advice since for more complicated issues everyone has a different opinion and it's hard separate KBJs from actual DJs.SinJester said:
You never know who the person behind the screen is. Theoretically I could be an evil 80 year old grandma getting a kick out of teasing young AFC pu$$ies.
It is easy to get suckered in into reading tons and tons of material and then hardly applying it in real life.
There is only one way.
YOU have to EXPERIENCE everything for yourself.
Make yourself as attractive as possible and approach at least 7 women a day for 6 months straight.
Experience beats everything.
I would approach 6 or 7 chicks a day for 6 months, the only problem is where I live I probably would have approached everyone in a couple weeks...
Hey I'll stop spammin your thread now. Your field reports are actually a personal inspiration.
It's okay.SinJester said:
Just send me a PM next time if you have questions.
I'll also help you out with your other thread because I used to be in the exact same situation.
You are one of the few people on here who are willing to learn so I'm glad to help.
The first one was a total crash and burn.
A girl was sitting by herself and I was sitting at the table next to her.
Me: "Hey, what are some good bars to check out around here?"
Her: "Why, are you doing a survery or something?"
Me: "No."
Her: "Well, there is blablabla"
Me: "Thanks. Whats your name btw?"
Her: "I'm blablabla"
Me: "I'm Chris. Nice to meet you."
Her: "I'm sorry, but I really need to get this studying done"
*Then she just turned away and I ejected*
Second approach:
I had to get to class soon, but then I saw a super hottie sitting there with her BF. Suddenly her bf leaves, so I walk up to her and sit down. I knew I had to be quick.
Me: "Hi, I saw you from back there and I knew I was gonna kick myself if I didn't come and talk to you"
HB: "Okay..." *smiles*
Me: Whats your name?
HB: Natalie
Me: I'm Chris.
Me: "So tell me something about you Natalie"
HB: Well, I just transfered from blablabla
Me: Oh, me too.
HB: How old are you?
Me: Guess...
HB: 27? (lol)
Me: Close! I'm 25...
HB: I'm 19
Me: Good, you need guidance then.
... we keep talking for a little bit...
Me: So, what do u study?
HB: Graphics design.
Me: Sexy and artistic. I like that. What else do you do?
HB: blablabla.
Then I saw her bf coming back from far away.
Me: Listen, I gotta get to class. Let me get your number though before I leave.
Her: Hmm, you can add me on facebook...
Me: I don't do facebook.
Her: Well, okay, it's balbalbalba
She is very likely to flake, but at least I tried...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DonJoseCantosie
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DonJoseCantosie
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Def man, trust me. Most of the time, if there's a girl ur very attracted to and u direct her, i **** u not, 75-80% of the time...that girl will be receptive, since it truly shows in ur face and u'd look her in the eye a certain way.ChrizZ said:
Whoever says indirect is better during the day, its the exact opposite. Direct is much better compared to indirect for the day.
But as for me, Direct...a good amount of girls have been receptive, i just haven't done day much lately but i plan to.
I SAW TWO HOT CHICKS TODAY. BOTH WERE EYEFVCKING ME AND I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!
I'm SO MAD RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!:cuss:
TODAY, LATER ON I'M GONNA APPROACH WHENEVER I SEE A HOT CHICK. COME HELL OR HIGH WATER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GROAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAR!!!!!!!!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.