You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Although I don't completely agree with Supreme on everything I can tell you that his podcasts and feedback helped me out a lot and opened my eyes to a lot of things while most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.AznPlaya said:thas it ? they taught u some basic ****... im not sayin that their not important but u coulda learned that anywhere but atleast good thing u did..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Care to elaborate?most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.
No.SinJester said:Care to elaborate?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The forums are almost useless for advice since for more complicated issues everyone has a different opinion and it's hard separate KBJs from actual DJs.SinJester said:I'm trying to ask for help here seeing as untill recently these forums and the DJ bible have been my only source of material...
It's okay.SinJester said:True, I'm pretty sure most people have done that at some point. This place does seem far more to me than just a means to pick up chicks now. I'm sure I know most of the stuff I need too, more even, I just need experiance like you said. Perhaps memorize and freshen up on some openers and the like.
I would approach 6 or 7 chicks a day for 6 months, the only problem is where I live I probably would have approached everyone in a couple weeks...
Hey I'll stop spammin your thread now. Your field reports are actually a personal inspiration.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.DonJoseCantosie said:Hey ChrizZ...the second opener seemed more congruent. U should do that one instead of the bar one. imo as u prolly don't give a rats ass about bars and she prolly doesn't either, but wants to know if ur into her.
No.brett012 said:Did she believe you're 25 because you were wearing a suit? Even if she adds you on facebook she's going to find out sooner or later.
Def man, trust me. Most of the time, if there's a girl ur very attracted to and u direct her, i **** u not, 75-80% of the time...that girl will be receptive, since it truly shows in ur face and u'd look her in the eye a certain way.ChrizZ said:exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.
Isn't that the method you use?
How is it working out for ya?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.