Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Although I don't completely agree with Supreme on everything I can tell you that his podcasts and feedback helped me out a lot and opened my eyes to a lot of things while most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.AznPlaya said:thas it ? they taught u some basic ****... im not sayin that their not important but u coulda learned that anywhere but atleast good thing u did..
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Care to elaborate?most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.
No.SinJester said:Care to elaborate?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The forums are almost useless for advice since for more complicated issues everyone has a different opinion and it's hard separate KBJs from actual DJs.SinJester said:I'm trying to ask for help here seeing as untill recently these forums and the DJ bible have been my only source of material...
It's okay.SinJester said:True, I'm pretty sure most people have done that at some point. This place does seem far more to me than just a means to pick up chicks now. I'm sure I know most of the stuff I need too, more even, I just need experiance like you said. Perhaps memorize and freshen up on some openers and the like.
I would approach 6 or 7 chicks a day for 6 months, the only problem is where I live I probably would have approached everyone in a couple weeks...
Hey I'll stop spammin your thread now. Your field reports are actually a personal inspiration.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.DonJoseCantosie said:Hey ChrizZ...the second opener seemed more congruent. U should do that one instead of the bar one. imo as u prolly don't give a rats ass about bars and she prolly doesn't either, but wants to know if ur into her.
No.brett012 said:Did she believe you're 25 because you were wearing a suit? Even if she adds you on facebook she's going to find out sooner or later.
Def man, trust me. Most of the time, if there's a girl ur very attracted to and u direct her, i **** u not, 75-80% of the time...that girl will be receptive, since it truly shows in ur face and u'd look her in the eye a certain way.ChrizZ said:exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.
Isn't that the method you use?
How is it working out for ya?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.