Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Although I don't completely agree with Supreme on everything I can tell you that his podcasts and feedback helped me out a lot and opened my eyes to a lot of things while most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.AznPlaya said:thas it ? they taught u some basic ****... im not sayin that their not important but u coulda learned that anywhere but atleast good thing u did..
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Care to elaborate?most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.
No.SinJester said:Care to elaborate?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The forums are almost useless for advice since for more complicated issues everyone has a different opinion and it's hard separate KBJs from actual DJs.SinJester said:I'm trying to ask for help here seeing as untill recently these forums and the DJ bible have been my only source of material...
It's okay.SinJester said:True, I'm pretty sure most people have done that at some point. This place does seem far more to me than just a means to pick up chicks now. I'm sure I know most of the stuff I need too, more even, I just need experiance like you said. Perhaps memorize and freshen up on some openers and the like.
I would approach 6 or 7 chicks a day for 6 months, the only problem is where I live I probably would have approached everyone in a couple weeks...
Hey I'll stop spammin your thread now. Your field reports are actually a personal inspiration.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.DonJoseCantosie said:Hey ChrizZ...the second opener seemed more congruent. U should do that one instead of the bar one. imo as u prolly don't give a rats ass about bars and she prolly doesn't either, but wants to know if ur into her.
No.brett012 said:Did she believe you're 25 because you were wearing a suit? Even if she adds you on facebook she's going to find out sooner or later.
Def man, trust me. Most of the time, if there's a girl ur very attracted to and u direct her, i **** u not, 75-80% of the time...that girl will be receptive, since it truly shows in ur face and u'd look her in the eye a certain way.ChrizZ said:exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.
Isn't that the method you use?
How is it working out for ya?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.