When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Although I don't completely agree with Supreme on everything I can tell you that his podcasts and feedback helped me out a lot and opened my eyes to a lot of things while most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.AznPlaya said:thas it ? they taught u some basic ****... im not sayin that their not important but u coulda learned that anywhere but atleast good thing u did..
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Care to elaborate?most of what I learned on sosuave was counterproductive.
No.SinJester said:Care to elaborate?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The forums are almost useless for advice since for more complicated issues everyone has a different opinion and it's hard separate KBJs from actual DJs.SinJester said:I'm trying to ask for help here seeing as untill recently these forums and the DJ bible have been my only source of material...
It's okay.SinJester said:True, I'm pretty sure most people have done that at some point. This place does seem far more to me than just a means to pick up chicks now. I'm sure I know most of the stuff I need too, more even, I just need experiance like you said. Perhaps memorize and freshen up on some openers and the like.
I would approach 6 or 7 chicks a day for 6 months, the only problem is where I live I probably would have approached everyone in a couple weeks...
Hey I'll stop spammin your thread now. Your field reports are actually a personal inspiration.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.DonJoseCantosie said:Hey ChrizZ...the second opener seemed more congruent. U should do that one instead of the bar one. imo as u prolly don't give a rats ass about bars and she prolly doesn't either, but wants to know if ur into her.
No.brett012 said:Did she believe you're 25 because you were wearing a suit? Even if she adds you on facebook she's going to find out sooner or later.
Def man, trust me. Most of the time, if there's a girl ur very attracted to and u direct her, i **** u not, 75-80% of the time...that girl will be receptive, since it truly shows in ur face and u'd look her in the eye a certain way.ChrizZ said:exactly. I feel bad making up **** that I'm not interested in. I'll go direct from now on.
Isn't that the method you use?
How is it working out for ya?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.