Do you tell them why you went nc if they try and contact and ask why you have not been contacting them or do you just bs them and say youre busy...i think it would be better to just be straight up with them but like to hear opinions and previous experiences
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If you go NC and they contact you do you tell them why you have not been contacting
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Well the thing with NC is its supposed to lead to a frame reset.
You only do NC when you have dropped your frame and the interactions are all going to **** (unless its a hard nc because a girl you were exclusive with cheated on you etc)
So the point is if you have re-etablished frame you arent going to start bitching about the past are you.
"Oh hey nah i wasnt ignoring you just had a ton on lately, good to hear from you though, so when are you buying me a drink?"
That's a fairly standard response
You only do NC when you have dropped your frame and the interactions are all going to **** (unless its a hard nc because a girl you were exclusive with cheated on you etc)
So the point is if you have re-etablished frame you arent going to start bitching about the past are you.
"Oh hey nah i wasnt ignoring you just had a ton on lately, good to hear from you though, so when are you buying me a drink?"
That's a fairly standard response
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
NO, you never admit that to them. It sounds like a good, honest thing to do in your mind, but it will only backfire on you. 2 things will happen
1. she will think your a little wuss, because you've allowed her to get under your skin, and change your behavior with her
2. she will start acting funny, and playing games and ignoring you sometimes, on some tick for tack type of ****. Even if you apoligize it wont matter, she will feel some type of way about it, because she is a woman
1. she will think your a little wuss, because you've allowed her to get under your skin, and change your behavior with her
2. she will start acting funny, and playing games and ignoring you sometimes, on some tick for tack type of ****. Even if you apoligize it wont matter, she will feel some type of way about it, because she is a woman
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Not doing it right kuz!
You go N/C and disappear. You ghost her and you leave the ambiguity to her to figure out. Meanwhile, you go get more babes all on top form 18-23. No sweeter feel then running into women from the past and you got someone 10years younger.
Jimmies be rustled.
You go N/C and disappear. You ghost her and you leave the ambiguity to her to figure out. Meanwhile, you go get more babes all on top form 18-23. No sweeter feel then running into women from the past and you got someone 10years younger.
Jimmies be rustled.
Woman: ‘Why haven’t you called me?”
Man; ‘Why haven’t you called me?’