Do you tell them why you went nc if they try and contact and ask why you have not been contacting them or do you just bs them and say youre busy...i think it would be better to just be straight up with them but like to hear opinions and previous experiences
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you go NC and they contact you do you tell them why you have not been contacting
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Well the thing with NC is its supposed to lead to a frame reset.
You only do NC when you have dropped your frame and the interactions are all going to **** (unless its a hard nc because a girl you were exclusive with cheated on you etc)
So the point is if you have re-etablished frame you arent going to start bitching about the past are you.
"Oh hey nah i wasnt ignoring you just had a ton on lately, good to hear from you though, so when are you buying me a drink?"
That's a fairly standard response
You only do NC when you have dropped your frame and the interactions are all going to **** (unless its a hard nc because a girl you were exclusive with cheated on you etc)
So the point is if you have re-etablished frame you arent going to start bitching about the past are you.
"Oh hey nah i wasnt ignoring you just had a ton on lately, good to hear from you though, so when are you buying me a drink?"
That's a fairly standard response
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
NO, you never admit that to them. It sounds like a good, honest thing to do in your mind, but it will only backfire on you. 2 things will happen
1. she will think your a little wuss, because you've allowed her to get under your skin, and change your behavior with her
2. she will start acting funny, and playing games and ignoring you sometimes, on some tick for tack type of ****. Even if you apoligize it wont matter, she will feel some type of way about it, because she is a woman
1. she will think your a little wuss, because you've allowed her to get under your skin, and change your behavior with her
2. she will start acting funny, and playing games and ignoring you sometimes, on some tick for tack type of ****. Even if you apoligize it wont matter, she will feel some type of way about it, because she is a woman
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Not doing it right kuz!
You go N/C and disappear. You ghost her and you leave the ambiguity to her to figure out. Meanwhile, you go get more babes all on top form 18-23. No sweeter feel then running into women from the past and you got someone 10years younger.
Jimmies be rustled.
You go N/C and disappear. You ghost her and you leave the ambiguity to her to figure out. Meanwhile, you go get more babes all on top form 18-23. No sweeter feel then running into women from the past and you got someone 10years younger.
Jimmies be rustled.
Woman: ‘Why haven’t you called me?”
Man; ‘Why haven’t you called me?’