Do you tell them why you went nc if they try and contact and ask why you have not been contacting them or do you just bs them and say youre busy...i think it would be better to just be straight up with them but like to hear opinions and previous experiences
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
If you go NC and they contact you do you tell them why you have not been contacting
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Well the thing with NC is its supposed to lead to a frame reset.
You only do NC when you have dropped your frame and the interactions are all going to **** (unless its a hard nc because a girl you were exclusive with cheated on you etc)
So the point is if you have re-etablished frame you arent going to start bitching about the past are you.
"Oh hey nah i wasnt ignoring you just had a ton on lately, good to hear from you though, so when are you buying me a drink?"
That's a fairly standard response
You only do NC when you have dropped your frame and the interactions are all going to **** (unless its a hard nc because a girl you were exclusive with cheated on you etc)
So the point is if you have re-etablished frame you arent going to start bitching about the past are you.
"Oh hey nah i wasnt ignoring you just had a ton on lately, good to hear from you though, so when are you buying me a drink?"
That's a fairly standard response
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
NO, you never admit that to them. It sounds like a good, honest thing to do in your mind, but it will only backfire on you. 2 things will happen
1. she will think your a little wuss, because you've allowed her to get under your skin, and change your behavior with her
2. she will start acting funny, and playing games and ignoring you sometimes, on some tick for tack type of ****. Even if you apoligize it wont matter, she will feel some type of way about it, because she is a woman
1. she will think your a little wuss, because you've allowed her to get under your skin, and change your behavior with her
2. she will start acting funny, and playing games and ignoring you sometimes, on some tick for tack type of ****. Even if you apoligize it wont matter, she will feel some type of way about it, because she is a woman
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Not doing it right kuz!
You go N/C and disappear. You ghost her and you leave the ambiguity to her to figure out. Meanwhile, you go get more babes all on top form 18-23. No sweeter feel then running into women from the past and you got someone 10years younger.
Jimmies be rustled.
You go N/C and disappear. You ghost her and you leave the ambiguity to her to figure out. Meanwhile, you go get more babes all on top form 18-23. No sweeter feel then running into women from the past and you got someone 10years younger.
Jimmies be rustled.
Woman: ‘Why haven’t you called me?”
Man; ‘Why haven’t you called me?’