I may be getting a little black-pilled now...

[BeExcellent]

Well on this one there are some lessons to learn. There are a few things to learn from & think about.

1. You did exactly what I and others told you not to do: you qualified yourself to the Exhibit C woman. You sent her a screenshot @ said its my sister blah blah blah. What that does is qualify you to that stupid woman. That sends the signal that you are lower than her on the totem pole. That goes nowhere good as you experienced.

Digest that & learn from it.

If you get a number, call it right then to verify. That way you know right away if its fake (and the chick is full of crap) or not.

You did not have this experience because of me being female or my advice but rather because you did the opposite of what I suggested.

You went back (Good) but you did not stay in observational mode and are still qualifying yourself to women (Bad). The Exhibit C woman is damaged & you've already been in her pants anyway. She's a 304 and she doesn't want to get a rep as "easy" because as you saw she and her friend get laid out of that place too. You were reactionary. You've got to work on that because you are way too invested in what these girls think of you.

Quit qualifying; quit caring.

She did circulate over to talk to you as I expected she would, but the text you sent her was totally unecessary and blew up your frame and any intrigue you may still have had before those conversations occurred.

Take these things as learning experiences moving forward and be more stoic/less reactionary.

You cannot build mystery or intrigue when you are sending those types of texts around. Now the idiot girl has her own personal copy of that text she can show and tell. You did that to yourself here. The idea is for women to wonder about you. That drives curiosity & intrigue.

Your night would have gone differently had you not done that.

By sending the text you gave the comment weight because you felt the need to explain & defend it. Never do that again. Rather, let it die in obscurity. You amplified it instead. Do you see that?

Your transparency takes courage. But you will learn.

At this point give that place a break for a couple weeks. You must grow out of thinking everyone is looking at you/talking about you etc. You must grow out of worrying about it. You are not that important in the great scheme of things. Let them talk. There have been times when people tried to smear me. It never stuck because I let it die and never poured gasoline on the fire someone else was trying to set.....all while being out and getting exposure as the charming person I am.

When you do go back eventually you can reset. Enjoy Philly and have a good time.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Well on this one there are some lessons to learn. There are a few things to learn from & think about.

1. You did exactly what I and others told you not to do: you qualified yourself to the Exhibit C woman. You sent her a screenshot @ said its my sister blah blah blah. What that does is qualify you to that stupid woman. That sends the signal that you are lower than her on the totem pole. That goes nowhere good as you experienced.

Digest that & learn from it.

If you get a number, call it right then to verify. That way you know right away if its fake (and the chick is full of crap) or not.

You did not have this experience because of me or my advice but rather because you did the opposite of what I suggested.

You went back (Good) but you did not stay in observational mode and are still qualifying yourself to women (Bad). The Exhibit C woman is damaged & you've already been in her pants anyway. She's a 304 and she doesn't want to get a rep as "easy" because as you saw she and her friend get laid out of that place too. You were reactionary. You've got to work on that because you are way too invested in what these girls think of you. Quit qualifying; quit caring.

She did circulate over to talk to you as I exected she would, but the text you sent her was totally unecessary and blew up your frame and any intrigue you may still have had before those conversations occurred.

Take these things as learning experiences moving forward and be more stoic/less reactionary.

You cannot build mystery or intrigue when you are sending those types of texts around. Now the idiot girl has her own personal copy of that text she can show and tell. You did that to yourself here. The idea is for women to wonder about you. That drives curiosity & intrigue.

Your night would have gone differently had you not done that.

By sending the text you gave the comment weight because you felt the need to explain & defend it. Never do that again. Rather, let it die in obscurity. You amplified it instead. Do you see that?

Your transparency takes courage. But you will learn.

At this point give that place a break for a couple weeks. You must grow out of thinking everyone is looking at you/talking about you etc. You must grow out of worrying about it. You are not that important in the great scheme of things. Let them talk. There have been times when people tried to smear me. It never stuck because I let it die and never poured gasoline on the fire someone else was trying to set.....all while being out and getting exposure as the charming person I am.

When you do go back eventually you can reset. Enjoy Philly and have a good time.

When he goes back?

If this kid goes back he’s going to end up on dateline.

This thread should be retitled Simp City.

 

[BeExcellent]

Its the local watering hole where everyone local goes. He's going to go back eventually whether you or I or anyone else advises him otherwise.

When he next goes he should go with a buddy (which I also advised he do last night) and be there to get a drink and show up/observe.

Its an over 21 venue. He's not going to be on Dateline. But he does need to drink less & stop shooting himself in the foot. Sometimes people must learn from experience because they cannot see the value in learning from someone else's experience. That is an arrogance of youth often.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Its the local watering hole where everyone local goes. He's going to go back eventually whether you or I or anyone else advises him otherwise.

When he next goes he should go with a buddy (which I also advised he do last night) and be there to get a drink and show up/observe.

Its an over 21 venue. He's not going to be on Dateline. But he does need to drink less & stop shooting himself in the foot. Sometimes people must learn from experience because they cannot see the value in learning from someone else's experience. That is an arrogance of youth often.

Drinking less is obvious. Starting to get concerned OP may have an alcohol problem with how many times he seems to have too much to drink.

I haven't drank in a long time but when I used to go out I almost never had more than 2 drinks...3 if I was staying somewhere til it closed around 4am.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Its the local watering hole where everyone local goes. He's going to go back eventually whether you or I or anyone else advises him otherwise.

When he next goes he should go with a buddy (which I also advised he do last night) and be there to get a drink and show up/observe.

Its an over 21 venue. He's not going to be on Dateline. But he does need to drink less & stop shooting himself in the foot. Sometimes people must learn from experience because they cannot see the value in learning from someone else's experience. That is an arrogance of youth often.

I and many others have tried to give him practical, actionable advice and he just ignores it. I wash my hands of it.

 

[Sega Genesis]

@BPH since you're trying to build a business advising men about women for a fee, if one of your clients came to you asking your advice and expertise re a situation like this, how would you have advised him?

Respectfully this entire situation among others you've posted about are/were total fiascos (this was the worst); another poster stated "you will learn" but if you're gonna build a business on this, should you already "know"?

A bit confused by that.

 

[Bokanovsky]

@BPH since you're trying to build a business advising men about women for a fee, if one of your clients came to you asking your advice and expertise re a situation like this, how would you have advised him?

Ever heard the expression "those who teach, can't do"? It applies to dating coaches perhaps more than to any other occupation (if you can call being a dating coach an occupation).

 

[retardedautist2020]

I just want to provide a little update. This doesn't paint me in the best, most "alpha" light, but in the interest of transparency, here's my experience:

While walking around, I saw the girl from Exhibit C. Earlier today, I decided to send her the screenshot of my Tea review and tell her that it was written by my sister, and to do some thinking for herself. A little petty, I know. Anyway, she walked past me and started saying some stuff, but I just kept walking.

Later, she comes up to me at the bar and has a conversation about the matter. Tells me she was molested when she was younger and takes that stuff very seriously. Says, despite that, she finds me immature, compared to her brother, who only came home to live with her parents after he was trying to recover from being a crack addict - says he now owns 3 homes at my age. That conversation went nowhere, and I asked why she was even talking to me if she'd made up her mind. It ended with her saying, "It's giving manchild" before booping me on the nose and walking away.

At the end of the night, while waiting for my Uber, she was across the street with that same girlfriend, talking to a group of guys. When I started getting in my ride, she started yelling "LOSER!" over and over from where she's at. So I flick her the bird and hop in the car.

So yeah, I'm going to Philadelphia tomorrow night, this is ridiculous.

I feel like I'm dealing with the worst behavior to get the most average pu**y this fall. And I'm really, really tired of it.

You‘re way too over invested in what these girls think of you, it’s cringy.

Like I mentioned before, these are the types of girls who go to bars. They’re easy sure, but also very insecure and can cause drama, YET YOU CHOOSE TO GO TO THESE PLACES SO SHUT THE **** UP AND DEAL WITH IT. You don’t have to go to bars but you willingly do. This is what will happen to you. This is the risk you take. Stop being a little ***** and whining about it.

 

[Barrister]

Why in the world would you have had any conversation with “Exhibit C” girl under any circumstances? Let alone go a step further and feel like you needed to qualify yourself to her? Come on man. This is brutal 101 stuff.

You need a break from women. Your next free weekend get out of town and get into nature like another poster suggested. Or delve into work and think about your business goals. Your frame of mind is really bad right now and it’s affecting how you’re interacting here. Time to hit reset for a few weeks minimum.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Why in the world would you have had any conversation with “Exhibit C” girl under any circumstances? Let alone go a step further and feel like you needed to qualify yourself to her? Come on man. This is brutal 101 stuff.

You need a break from women. Your next free weekend get out of town and get into nature like another poster suggested. Or delve into work and think about your business goals. Your frame of mind is really bad right now and it’s affecting how you’re interacting here. Time to hit reset for a few weeks minimum.

Especially to some random college chick who should be so far beneath him that he shouldn't even interact with her at this point and completely block her out of his mind.

 

[BPH]

Alright, I got more replies than I was expecting, and I decided to do some reflection. Before I do that, I want to go over some points, rather than quote so many people individually:

• Regarding the Tea app...I've done my research, and the experience of several people in the same position as myself has had no response from any of Tea's support emails. I assume they are inundated with similar requests for takedowns. It is only when Apple legal was involved that a response from Tea was necessary. Because the app is no longer searchable to be included in that form for Apple, I cannot submit that takedown through that channel. I've asked the person who was able to get their request answered via this method what email Apple replied with, so I can contact them directly, and I am waiting for a response. I'll figure it out, either through Apple or Google Play.
• Regarding texting the girl from Exhibit C...my thought was that at the very least, I've denied what I've been accused of. She is likely to show several other girls what's been posted about me - she probably has already. I figure that at least now, she has the other side of that equation, regardless of whether she plans to share that, say she doesn't believe it, whatever. Of course, it doesn't matter; I'm not trying to win her over, just give my side.
• Regarding the conversation with the girl from Exhibit C in the bar last night...I didn't go to her; she came to me - twice. The second time around was while I was just sitting, sipping, in "observational mode", so I let her say what she wanted to say. One of the suggestions was to loudly say "I have nothing to say to you" and continue ignoring and moving away from her. Maybe that would've gone better, maybe not.
• Regarding the girl with the fake phone number...as others have stated - which I also advise - calling it in front of her to verify. I did, but at this point, her other friend was pulling her along, so I didn't get her to stick around long enough to check that. Not a major point, just something else annoying to add to the night.
• Regarding the heavy drinking...there's probably some validity to that. At this bar, I'm close with most of the bartenders, so they hook me up when they serve me. This usually means my drinks are all doubles, and I'm not paying for most of them. I'm a big guy with a high tolerance, but this is probably affecting my judgment, yeah. I'm not blacking out, forgetting parts of the night, puking, or pissing myself, but it is true that I probably wouldn't have a similar issue at another bar. I can certainly moderate. I'd just say sometimes I'm overconfident.
• Regarding the "vibe" of the bar...one thing I DID note in "observation mode" is that nobody is really hooking up with anybody. Girls are letting guys talk to them and buy them drinks. Guys are standing around with friends, just drinking and looking around. There is very little interplay. I saw only one couple making out in a dark corner, and I saw almost no guys leave with a girl. The bar isn't a "chill and relaxed" vibe - it's busy, packed closely together, with loud rap and hip hop music playing. Though, as mentioned before, even by the bartenders, this is the first year where there's regularly been no line to get in. It's also been the first year I've seen them cut sections early. Whether that's because these kids are going to an afterparty or just lack social skills and are headed home early, I'm not sure.
• Regarding going into "observation mode"...yeah, that didn't go well for me. After 40 or so minutes just sitting at the bar, pretending to give a sh** about whatever game was on, and just scanning around, looking at who was there started to feel like a waste of time. I didn't have anybody "poke the bear", so with about an hour before close, I decided to walk around a bit, which led to the night I described.
• Regarding "those who can't do, teach", and that I should "already know"...I'm just having a bad time recently. I still know what I'm doing: @nicksaiz65 just hooked up with his former FWB again after I helped him see what she was really doing when she got mad at him and "no longer wanted to see him" after he hit on another coworker - he was going to cut her off and just next her. I helped my buddy by texting on his behalf, and he almost got laid, if not for the fact that his girl fell asleep because he took too long. And I predicted what was going to happen with @Divorced w 3 and his ex in the no contact thread with a pretty high degree of accuracy. I'm not without mistakes, and don't think being really good at something means that I'd be perfect, but I'm just having a bad time. I've still been successful; that last LR was only 3 weeks ago. I'm just dealing with a lot more BS that's starting to put me in a poor mental state, and making me sloppy.

What I've been reflecting on is the WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, and to a lesser extent, WHY of this problem...

WHAT: I'm dealing with an uncharacteristically high level of BS to have a positive result with these college girls at the nearby bars where I've been historically quite successful.

WHERE: I'm dealing with this BS almost exclusively at this singular college bar. And I'm dealing with this singular college bar because I have the best relationship with the staff, where I skip lines, get served quickly, and get served "extra".

WHEN: This has only been happening over the course of the last 2 months, since school started back up and the bar became busy again. Before that, I wasn't having issues in Philadelphia or Ocean City.

WHY: Due to my age. I'd made posts about this as early as when I was 28, I think, and now that I'm in another decade, it seems worse. Regardless of how I look or act, a lot of girls in this bar think it is weird or creepy that I am not pursuing women my own age, as evidenced by some comments on that Tea app. That app is an additional WHY. That big, ugly post about me has been live for almost a full year. My red flag count is high, and whoever posted me tagged me for Delaware, Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and Maryland. I'm highly visible, and while this is the first time this app has impacted me DIRECTLY, I have no clue who else might've made their decision about me based off that comment.

SOLUTION: This cycle of dealing with bad behavior has put me in a poor headspace, even despite my recent success, and I'm getting sloppy. I feel like I'm trying to force a square peg through a round hole. I only default to this bar because it is the closest to me, often has a decent turnout of good-looking women, and I have great relationships with the staff, which benefits me. The women being younger and the age gap being larger is a byproduct of not having great alternatives to meet attractive women - not by virtue of them just being younger. The simple tradeoff is going to be traveling further, at greater expense and inconvenience, so that I won't be wasting my time and resources on this bad behavior. Others have already suggested this, but I wanted to try making an appearance and showing that I haven't been run off by this girl's comments - as stated before, it would be like an admission of guilt. But if I'm going to fight an uphill battle anytime a girl asks me my age or who I'm there with, it's not worth repeating the cycle I'm in now.

 

[sevbucmash]

Thing is:

The reason those women are looking up men on those apps is to find out whether men are on their feet or not, at the very minimum. Issue is that you need to make more money, have your own home, car, maybe a boat. In your 30's you need that. You need to be making $$cash$$. That's what they looking for in a man. Some girl gave you and then dug into you deeper and found out the truth, she went mad and took a dump on your reputation.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Thing is:

The reason those women are looking up men on those apps is to find out whether men are on their feet or not, at the very minimum. Issue is that you need to make more money, have your own home, car, maybe a boat. In your 30's you need that. You need to be making $$cash$$. That's what they looking for in a man. Some girl gave you and then dug into you deeper and found out the truth, she went mad and took a dump on your reputation.

I agree with this in part.

OP would be dealing with far less of this if he had his own place, made $100K, drove a good car, etc...

Right now he is playing into the prototypical "loser" of older guys still living at home without a good job and no career trying to get laid with younger women but not having their act together.

I don't believe OP is a loser, I am just saying that is how they portray him regardless of anything else he tells them. The old "we've heard it all before" from guys telling them their plans just to get in their pants routine.

Essentially that's the "price" it costs to do this in their eyes. Having your life together in ways that guys their age don't.

When you don't have that, they view it as "cheating the system" and trying to "get something for nothing".

Not saying it's fair or the way it should be, just saying it's reality.

 

[BPH]

Thing is:

The reason those women are looking up men on those apps is to find out whether men are on their feet or not, at the very minimum. Issue is that you need to make more money, have your own home, car, maybe a boat. In your 30's you need that. You need to be making $$cash$$. That's what they looking for in a man. Some girl gave you and then dug into you deeper and found out the truth, she went mad and took a dump on your reputation.

I agree with this in part.

OP would be dealing with far less of this if he had his own place, made $100K, drove a good car, etc...

Right now he is playing into the prototypical "loser" of older guys still living at home without a good job and no career trying to get laid with younger women but not having their act together.

Essentially that's the "price" it costs to do this in their eyes. Having your life together in ways that guys their age don't.

When you don't have that, they view it as "cheating the system" and trying to "get something for nothing".

Not saying it's fair or the way it should be, just saying it's reality.

I don't disagree that being in a better position financially and with my living situation would help, but the guys being posted on here with lots of red flags aren't receiving that treatment because they're bums.

Most comments revolve around suspicion that a guy drugged them, calling them a narcissist, questioning their sexuality, is messing around with girls while taken, etc.

Not living at home would give me one fewer bullet point, but it's not what makes or breaks a lot of these posts.

 

[BeExcellent]

Well. You have the guts to look in the mirror and own your shjt. For me, and for my husband too, staff relationships are a big plus. You get to have a good time for less, and if you are flying solo you are familiar so its comfortable.

You'll wander back in there in time & why not? The staff knows you & likes you. Chill with a buddy or visit with the staff. Drink more responsibly and learn to be comfortable in your own skin rather than in constant 'I must hit on women mode.' You have already picked up some useful insight for this bar.

Bars come & go in a college town. It is very VERY rare for the hot bar/club to last a decade or more. Nightlife patrons are fickle, and fickle beautiful girls determine what places are packed. Why? The men who foot more of the bill at the club follow the hot women.

Where I went to college the best venue was owned by a Hungarian man and his Asian wife. Every 2-3 years like clockwork they'd shutter the club over the summer, redecorate it, rename it, and revamp it. Then they'd open the "new" club under much fanfare and they'd be the hotspot for another 2-3 years. It was very smart.

They understood they needed the pretty coeds who were old enough to drink in there to attract the men, and they knew each concept had a limited lifespan due to the fickle nature of nightlife patrons. So they switched it up periodically.

Deep breath OP. This will pass in a little time.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I agree with this in part.

OP would be dealing with far less of this if he had his own place, made $100K, drove a good car, etc...

Right now he is playing into the prototypical "loser" of older guys still living at home without a good job and no career trying to get laid with younger women but not having their act together.

I don't believe OP is a loser, I am just saying that is how they portray him regardless of anything else he tells them. The old "we've heard it all before" from guys telling them their plans just to get in their pants routine.

Essentially that's the "price" it costs to do this in their eyes. Having your life together in ways that guys their age don't.

When you don't have that, they view it as "cheating the system" and trying to "get something for nothing".

Not saying it's fair or the way it should be, just saying it's reality.

He wanted to be a fvxkboy, now he’s getting the fvckboy treatment.

 

[BPH]

He wanted to be a fvxkboy, now he’s getting the fvckboy treatment.

Incorrect.

It's an age issue with one particular group. I'm not behaving any differently than I have before, minus the recent sloppiness.

If I were having this problem in other places, or conversations ending when asked "where do you live?" I'd agree with you. But they're not - they're ending after asking "how old are you?" and "why are you at a college bar?"

I'll be visiting Center City tonight, so we can test that theory momentarily.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Incorrect.

It's an age issue with one particular group. I'm not behaving any differently than I have before, minus the recent sloppiness.

If I were having this problem in other places, or conversations ending when asked "where do you live?" I'd agree with you. But they're not - they're ending after asking "how old are you?" and "why are you at a college bar?"

I'll be visiting Center City tonight, so we can test that theory momentarily.

Just own it. It is part of the game in what you are doing. App isn’t the issue, the allegations are.

 

[Sega Genesis]

@BPH you seem quite defensive of any opinions that don't align with your own vision of yourself, curious why that is? Are you not here to learn?

I happen to agree with @Divorced w 3 , you frequent bars and clubs to meet women with the goal to f*kk them, not even date them necessarily, just to get the lay and increase your notch count. Am I wrong? You've actually admitted this.

This is the very definition of a fukkboy and as such the energy you project. Fukboy energy.

I'm not even judging you for it, it's what you are at least for now, just own it as Dw3 said. Work with it.

Do you think women at these bars and clubs or the gym or the fwb you had awhile back who unceremoniously dumped you because her cat died (which was BS, any man with two brain cells to rub together would know it was bs - she didn't even have the decency to thank you for the card you left ffs).....can't sense your fukkboy energy?

They can trust me no matter how hard you try to hide it. @BeExcellent mentioned this too, you're a fukkboy attempting to present yourself as this "nice guy" and it's coming out all wrong - disingenuous and fake. And creepy.

You seem intent to want to blame externals - your age, your living situation, the bar, the women are psycho/immature etc etc.

@BeExcellent has posted about this many times but try looking within, internally, and taking stock of where you are and where you're going and as the narrator said in the video just posted "take a year off from women and get your fukkin shyt together."

Not physically. You've got that covered and may even be the reason for your 106 lay count.

But rather where you are in life - living at home at 31 years of age in the the same clown-decorated room you grew up in, making $30,000-$40,000 per year... with your main purpose in life being going out to bars and "fukking attractive women.."

I'm sorry to say this cause you seem like a decent person, but this is just embarrassing.

As per the video (did you even watch it?) take this time to learn a decent well-paying trade, make more money and get your own place.

Start there.

NOT necessarily to attract women but rather for YOU. It will affect how you feel internally about yourself and the energy you project to others including women in a positive way.

 

[BPH]

@BPH you seem quite defensive of any opinions that don't align with your own vision of yourself, curious why that is? Are you not here to learn?

I happen to agree with @Divorced w 3 , you frequent bars and clubs to meet women with the goal to f*kk them, not even date them necessarily, just to get the lay and increase your notch count. Am I wrong? You've actually admitted this.

This is the very definition of a fukkboy and as such the energy you project. Fukboy energy.

I'm not even judging you for it, it's what you are at least for now, just own it as Dw3 said. Work with it.

Do you think women at these bars and clubs or the gym or the fwb you had awhile back who unceremoniously dumped you because her cat died (which was BS, any man with two brain cells to rub together would know it was bs - she didn't even have the decency to thank you for the card you left ffs).....can't sense your fukkboy energy?

They can trust me no matter how hard you try to hide it. @BeExcellent mentioned this too, you're a fukkboy attempting to present yourself as this "nice guy" and it's coming out all wrong - disingenuous and fake. And creepy.

You seem intent to want to blame externals - your age, your living situation, the bar, the women are psycho/immature etc etc.

@BeExcellent has posted about this many times but try looking within, internally, and taking stock of where you are and where you're going and as the narrator said in the video just posted "take a year off from women and get your fukkin shyt together."

Not physically. You've got that covered and may even be the reason for your 106 lay count.

But rather where you are in life - living at home at 31 years of age in the the same clown-decorated room you grew up in, making $30,000-$40,000 per year... with your main purpose in life being going out to bars and "fukking attractive women.."

I'm sorry to say this cause you seem like a decent person, but this is just embarrassing.

As per the video (did you even watch it?) take this time to learn a decent well-paying trade, make more money and get your own place.

Start there.

NOT necessarily to attract women but rather for YOU. It will affect how you feel internally about yourself and the energy you project to others including women in a positive way.

I don't think I'm defensive.

Some criticisms I agree with: drinking too heavily because I have a good relationship with the staff at this bar is something I need to moderate, because it leads to some sloppy behavior, such as qualifying myself to somebody who doesn't deserve it (Exhibit C), and trying too hard when I do meet someone.

What I don't agree with is having certain problems just because YOU say I do. I'm not obligated to accept all criticism as true. When I ask for advice, I weigh that advice against what I already believe to be true/false and look for adjustments I can make, or things that I hadn't considered. I don't just shake my head and say "yeah, you're right" about everything.

For example, the girl with that cat. I visited her a few months ago. Not to win her over or force a meeting, but just to see how she's doing (I know it's against the advice I received). She was happy to see me, but she is legitimately a mess. She has collected a few clumps of his fur and whiskers, and in the short time I spent visiting her, broke down crying many times - even when it'd been nearly 4 months since this cat was put down. She gained probably about 30lbs or so, and hasn't been outside much. I helped her beat a hard boss in Assassin's Creed that she'd been stuck on since I last visited, and she talked about having me come to the gym with her, and revived the conversation about filming content with me for her OnlyFans since she hadn't been working in a while either. I hadn't seen her since those promises were made, but at this point, I feel like I've given a solid effort to be available for her.

You're not always right.

What I would love is to have a few girls I see regularly, where I meet someone new every once in a while. The notch count is a byproduct of my enjoying variety and the chase - not because I like seeing a high number and have something to prove.

Considering this is the foundation of the business I'm building, I think it's important to stay involved with what I'm preaching to others.

Anyway...

Went out in Center City last night and had a decent night. Visited 3 different bars, stayed in "observation mode", and moderated my drinking (especially since I planned to drive home later). Met a girl at the 3rd bar who approached me, asking if I had a girlfriend. We hit it off, her friends came by and invited me along to an after-hours bar with them, along with another guy who was flirting with one of her friends. We made out the entire Uber ride to the bar, and I thought I was actually going to have another lay report to write...but she had work in the morning and also lives at home. She wants to go to Dave & Buster's with me tonight, but I get the vibe that she's looking for more commitment than I can offer, and I don't think it would work out logistically with us both living at home and her being an hour away, so I may just stay in instead. We've been texting since then, and we follow each other on Instagram.

Regardless of how that turns out, it was a nice mental reset, and solidifies my reflection above that my recent problems are specific to this one bar and its patrons. These girls never even asked me my age.