I may be getting a little black-pilled now...

[BPH]

I don't really have a goal with this post, but last night I was out and it was quite bad, so I want to talk about it.

I was originally going to title this "The Tea App...", since that is the primary issue I had, but I also wanted to talk about 2 other instances of bad behavior that really disappointed me.

I think the reason I want to vent about this is that it describes something beyond my control, where I don't see a solution beyond simply going elsewhere.

Anyway...

Exhibit A

There was a girl I met on Thursday night. We hit it off, but she was with her friends and wanted to get to know me better. I took her number and left it at that, with the plan to see her the next night (Friday night). I texted her when I was on my way, and I ran into her near the bathroom, waiting for her friend after I got served my drink.

We hug, say hi, and make a little bit of small talk before her friend rejoins her. She mentions that they had both been at the bar since 7PM, but I commented that neither girl had a drink in their hand, and asked if they were done for the night.

They were not, and she replied by asking if I wanted to buy her a drink. The friend then chimes in and says "me too", to which my girl agreed, saying that "where I go, she goes". I just stare at them both for a moment - I'm kind of in disbelief at how quickly we went from "hello" to "buy us both drinks". I turn to my girl and ask if she's gonna buy me a drink after I buy her one...

She says "maybe", but the friend chimes in again and says "no, that's not how this works". She then proceeds to shame me for saying this in a variety of ways, starting with asking if I have a job, and whether I couldn't afford drinks...then saying I mustn't be a real man, and asking if I wanted to bring in another guy to compensate...then proceeding to chant "STINGY! STINGY! STINGY!"

I'm just staring at them both in silence, again, in disbelief at this behavior. Most of it was the friend, but my girl didn't say anything - just stared at me, waiting to see whether I'd do what her friend said.

So I said nothing, walked away, and deleted that girl's number.

Exhibit B

There was a girl I met last week at this bar. We sorta hit it off, but the interest didn't seem high enough - I had her number and we followed each other on Instagram, but she rarely texted back. We also saw each other on multiple nights that week, and she never really made time for me when I was there.

Basically, she's probably not that interested, but she's also not rejecting me, so when I saw her last night after having had several drinks, I figured it couldn't hurt to say hi and feel things out.

She was happy to see me...but her friend...

I think I might've mentioned this somewhere within the last week, but in case I'm misremembering, this girl has an extremely average-looking friend who is belligerently drunk every time I see her, leading to the girl I'm interested in always taking care of her and doing what she wants.

This friend STRONGLY dislikes me. The reason? Because I'm 31 years old. She finds it creepy and predatory that I'm at a college bar, by myself, talking to women 9-10 years younger than myself. And she is making that especially known tonight - to the point where the girl I came for has barely said anything, and as in the example of Exhibit A, hasn't intervened or said anything to put a stop to her friend's tirade.

I see there is no "win" to be had here, so I say "you girls have fun", then walk away to continue my night.

Exhibit C

So this is the one I REALLY want to talk about...

Remember the girl I wrote about a mere 2 weeks ago for my 106th lay report? Long story short, we met up at the bar for the second time that weekend, things went well and I left the bar with her, I prevented a fight after her friend's drunken boyfriend punched a random guy in the face, f***ed twice at her place, spent the night, had some pillow talk in the morning, kissed her goodbye, then texted her later and I mentioned she liked my messages.

Since then, she hadn't been free due to midterms. We saw each other at the bar last weekend, and she smiled at me with her same friend, but she wasn't interested in hooking up that night - she said she just didn't feel like it that night. She would later text me that she's not interested in anything right now because she's a senior and feels that she needs to get her life together in preparation for graduating. I told her I understood, and that was it. She still followed me on Instagram and watches all the stuff I post.

After both the above events last night, I saw her and her girlfriend sitting in a booth and came over to say hi. The vibe was very different this time...

They both looked disgusted by me. I asked what was wrong. They tell me I have a LOT of red flags on the Tea app, stating that women are calling me manipulative, abusive, and plenty of other terrible things. Now, I figured that I was on the app, but I'm surprised that whatever's being said about me is enough to convince two women who thought positively about me 1-2 weeks ago that I'm now a terrible person.

And I tell them this: that I thought they knew me a little better than that, how I spent the night with this girl, and kept her friend's boyfriend from getting his a** kicked. But they're now adamant that I'm a creepy guy preying on younger women at a college bar, and want nothing to do with me.

I leave them alone, and later text my girl that I'm a bit disappointed that, despite having spent time with me in person, she's valuing a "review" of me made by an anonymous stranger on an app. That turns into a back-and-forth discussion that would resume for a short time in the morning.

It boils down to her calling me a predator, thinking it's really creepy that I think she's hot when she's 10 years younger than me, and saying that my behavior is juvenile while comparing me to her 30-year-old brother. She goes on to say that somebody on the app called me "physically abusive", which she takes very seriously, discredits my role in preventing the fight her friend's boyfriend almost caused because I "didn't do sh**, it's because WE were all there", and then going so far as to say I must've followed her home that night to sleep with her because she was blacked out.

No mention of the conversation we had in the morning, kissing me goodbye, liking my text messages, following me on Instagram - none of that. But at this point, that didn't matter, so I just deleted her number and blocked her.

The reason this bothers me so is because I can't imagine what's being said about me if it's enough to convince somebody who's already met me that I must be vastly different than the person they met - and those claims can be made anonymously, with zero recourse for the person being "reviewed", and zero consequence for the person being dishonest with their "review".

I'm now wondering how many women at this bar have read the same things about me that this girl above has read, and believe them.

I actually used a selfie of my mom to see if I would get accepted on the app. I know it won't change anything, and I figured I was on it, but I'm curious how bad it must really be. And, for the record, the vetting process is a selfie...you don't need a picture of your ID, you can select whatever city, and you're hidden behind a username you create for yourself. There's a 72-hour waitlist to be approved, because this app has over 1,000,000 users pending approval, and is the #1 downloaded app under Lifestyle...

Like I said, I don't really have a goal with this post; I'm just very disappointed in the state of modern dating for men...I feel I'm living in the worst timeline to be a man...at least in terms of dating.

Chris Evans started dating the woman he's now married to when he was 40 and she was 24. Leonardo DiCaprio is infamous for his "cutoff age" of 25 when it comes to the women he dates, while he is 50. But I do the same as a younger man, with a smaller age gap, and I'm a predator?

I'd mentioned before that I'm starting to see the same girls at this bar over and over again. I'll probably start to go elsewhere, like Philly, or just not go out at all for a while.

I'm just extremely disappointed and wanted to share and vent about this experience.

 

[tksniper]

I think the biggest obstacle for dating in your demographic is lack of intrigue. Guys used to try to be a mystery to women. Nowadays their social media accounts tell their whole life story. When was the last time a girl told you that you were mysterious?

Dating sucks for young men in 2025 because there is no mystery to them. Every guy is the same. Same hair cut, same style, same personality, etc.

If I were to rate the top 5 attraction triggers it would be

1- status
2- looks
3- money
4 - intrigue
5 - connection.


In 2025, no one is mysterious. Every guy is an open book, already solved to women.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'm just extremely disappointed and wanted to share and vent about this experience.

As you seem to recognize, you're stalking antelope, in a locale where the pickings are not only sparse, but your quarry is highly attenued to presence of hunters. Philly is going to be where it's at, henceforth

 

[DonJefe19]

Both of these sound like isolated events and the "friend" has a serious jealous issue that they are projected. I'd just shrug these off because the girls are misbehaving. They'll get their "crying and ice cream" sessions soon enough.

As for the Tea App, the jokes on them. That app got hacked and the entire user base got leaked. They can feel all righteous all they want but the fact of matter is that call flooders do exist and some immoral folks take pleasure being a pain in the a*s to those types of girls. I'd say karma is coming and rightly so.

 

[Westminster]

OP - time to move on and try other venues in other places. You've fished the pond dry where you are and consequently it now sounds like you are (unfairly) getting a bad reputation locally.

I'd give your usual haunts a miss for a while now because its not beyond the realms of possibility that you'll end up with an accusation against you - and then all bets are off.

Think about it, the girl who said she blacked out when you went back to her place. That's only a step away from.a Me Too.

Unfortunately, mud sticks however unfairly it is thrown.

 

[characternote]

over a long enough timeline, everyone becomes blackpilled lol.

America has always been insane and hysterical about age gaps compared to other countries. I'm in the UK, and unfortunately (I guess due to the internet?) we have slowly started to become the same way which sucks but for a long long time, our views towards age gaps was very different. Only fairly recently, I see comments about girls calling guys out on their age when the guy is still young and there's barely a gap way way more than I did just a few years ago.

Only a few years ago, i'd read things on American forums where girl were like 'He's 23!! what interest has he got in an 18 year old!!??'' which was just INSANE to me as a Brit. I mean, I remember being at school and 15 and 16 year olds were getting picked up by their 25 year old boyfriends in their cars. Often in FRONT of teachers etc. And it simply wasn't an issue. Nobody cared lol. Some of the girls got pregnant. Similarly, a 35 year old and an 18 year old just wouldn't have really raised an eyebrow. Maybe one or 2 jokey comments at the most!

The point is in the UK age gaps were seemingly just not a thing to even think about as long as the girl was legal (age of consent is 16 here. no age gap laws) and willing! Wheras in America its like unless you are within like 2 years of the girl, people are taught that it's very weird and wrong. So yeah...move to Spain or something!! lol

As for the rest of the post, not sure what to say, but girls can be a$$holes like that. It's not the same, but an example is about a year ago I randomly got talking to these women who were well in their 30's like me. Just small talking having a laugh in the pub. I wasn't interested in any of them, but I could sense some interest from one of them. We all moved too a different bar together where I cold approached some really hot girl who was about 19. Was going very well. flirting. She gave me her number. Kissed. Whilst this was happening the older women who were sitting at a table in the beer garden about 20 feet away from me were shouting my name out and just being d1cks seemingly trying to ruin the set.

The older girls move too a different part of the pub. I say goodbye to the hot 19 year old. I go to the bar to get a beer. I go back to the older women whilst I wait for my wingmen to arrive and they start berating me and then they accuse me of molesting a young girl!! I'm thinking 'do they meant he girl who just gave me her number or someone else???!'. Before I know it they call the bouncers over and get me thrown out!! lol. Say i've been touching teenagers. I try to tell the bouncer I have no idea what's going on but it's a whole table of girls against me, and now these older girls seem to have roped in another table of 18 year old girls who i've never met who now seem to be endorsing what the older women are saying!! I'd never been gasslighted so much in my entire life and started to honestly wonder if I'd had some sort of psychotic break or amnesia and had actually molested some random girls! Or whether I had a twin who had done so! It kinda made me look at women differently

 

[Westminster]

over a long enough timeline, everyone becomes blackpilled lol.

America has always been insane and hysterical about age gaps compared to other countries. I'm in the UK, and unfortunately (I guess due to the internet?) we have slowly started to become the same way which sucks. But only fairly recently. I see comments about girls calling guys out on their age when the guy is still young and there's barely a gap way way more than I did just a few years ago.

Only a few years ago, i'd read things on American forums where girl were like 'He's 23!! what interest has he got in an 18 year old!!??'' which was just INSANE to me as a Brit. I mean, I remember being at school and 15 and 16 year olds were getting picked up by their 25 year old boyfriends in their cars. Often in FRONT of teachers etc. And it simply wasn't an issue. Nobody cared lol. Some of the girls got pregnant. Similarly, a 35 year old and an 18 year old just wouldn't have really raised an eyebrow. Maybe one or 2 jokey comments at the most!

The point is in the UK age gaps were seemingly just not a thing to even think about as long as the girl was legal (age of consent is 16 here. no age gap laws) and willing! Wheras in America its like unless you are within like 2 years of the girl, people are taught that it's very weird and wrong. So yeah...move to Spain or something!! lol

As for the rest of the post, not sure what to say, but girls can be a$$holes like that. It's not the same, but an example is about a year ago I randomly got talking to these women who were well in their 30's like me. Just small talking having a laugh in the pub. I wasn't interested in any of them, but I could sense some interest from one of them. We all moved too a different bar together where I cold approached some really hot girl who was about 19. Was going very well. flirting. She gave me her number. Kissed. Whilst this was happening the older women were shouting my name out and just being d1cks seemingly trying to ruin the set.

The older girls move too a different part of the pub. I say goodbye to the hot 19 year old. I go to the bar to get a beer. I go back to the older women whilst I wait for my wingmen to arrive and they start berating me and then they accuse me of molesting a young girl!! I'm thinking 'do they meant he girl who just gave me her number?!'. Before I know it they call the bouncers over and get me thrown out!! lol. Say i've been touching teenagers. I try to tell the bouncer I have no idea what's going on but it's a whole table of girls against me, and now these older girls seem to have roped in another table of 18 year old girls who i've never met who now seem to be endorsing what the older women are saying!! I'd never been gasslighted so much in my entire life and started to honestly wonder if I'd had some sort of psychotic break or amnesia! haha. It kinda made me look at women differently

You are laughing at this but the scenario you describe is far from amusing. Had the bouncers then called the police (not that farfetched as you were effectively being accused of sexual assault by multiple women) you might have ended up on the sex offenders' register.

 

[characternote]

You are laughing at this but the scenario you describe is far from amusing. Had the bouncers then called the police (not that farfetched as you were effectively being accused of sexual assault by multiple women) you might have ended up on the sex offenders' register.

well there's CCTV in the pub which would have absolved me. I was gonna go in the next day to ask for footage just because, as I say, my head was spinning from confusion!! But I didn't bother. But at one point, due to some extreme gasslighting, I honestly wondered whether i'd actually done something completely out of character and literally groped random young girls and then somehow forgotten it. When you've got 15 people telling you your hair is green, you kind of start to doubt your own eyes!! I later spoke to another guy who I sort of knew and told him what had happened and he was like 'I was close to you the whole time. Unless you went on some crazy rampage in the 30 seconds where I went to take a leak, they're making stuff up'. Made me feel sane again!

I put it down to older women being jealous and just making stuff up. Maybe whilst I was arguing my case with the bouncer (and dealing with a whiteknight who got involved) they managed to get a few young girls sitting by to lie/agree with them. Was a while ago now and i'd forgotten about it until I read hte OP's post which made me think of it

 

[Westminster]

well there's CCTV in the pub which would have absolved me. I was gonna go in the next day to ask for footage just because, as I say, my head was spinning from confusion!! But I didn't bother

I put it down to older women being jealous and just making stuff up. Maybe whilst I was arguing my case they managed to get a few young girls sitting by to lie/agree with them. Was a while ago now and i'd forgotten about it until I read hte OP's post which made me think of it

The fact that you thought about asking for the CCTV shows that you realised how serious this could have been - although remember you may not have been given access to the footage. Also, CCTV footage like this is only kept for 30 days in the UK so you would have been on very sticky wicket had an official complaint been made a little while after the event, which is not uncommon.

None of this is a criticism of you BTW, but it just goes to show how dangerous women can be.

 

[characternote]

The fact that you thought about asking for the CCTV shows that you realised how serious this could have been

you're right that it's serious, but in truth, that was never even a thought in my mind at the time. my only concern and reason for wanting to see CCTV was for my mental health as I wondered whether it was possible that i'd actually done somehing like that, and also somehow forgotten about it and had some sort of brain/memory issue!!

 

[Westminster]

you're right that it's serious, but in truth, that was never even a thought in my mind at the time. my only concern and reason for wanting to see CCTV was for my mental health as I wondered whether it was possible that i'd actually done somehing like that, and also somehow forgotten about it and had some sort of brain/memory issue!!

Which is exctly the effect that gaslighting often has as the victim starts to question their own judgment and sense of reality.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Sounds like as Westminster said, you’ve fished the pond dry there. And also getting older and being treated as such by the chicks. (The older ‘creep’ drinks provider etc ) Everything has phases and an expiry date.
Banging drunk chicks starts to be less fun and more messy the older ya get tbh. It’s not worth it after a point .

You’ve done well there. time to move on to another environment and older chicks. we are not movie stars and those age gap rules do not apply sadly.

 

[sevbucmash]

I texted her when I was on my way, and I ran into her near the bathroom, waiting for her friend after I got served my drink.

Naaah. She made sure you ran into her. High IL, high 70's as high as 79%.

I'm kind of in disbelief at how quickly we went from "hello" to "buy us both drinks".

Hi initial IL. But not quite the doggie dinner bowl reaction, but it's still good.

So I said nothing, walked away, and deleted that girl's number.

No man.

She was happy to see me...but her friend...

A c0ck block! Anyway you can make an appearance you didn't see her, look around and under the chair and say out lout WHO SAID THAT?

for my 106th lay report

I've misread this one as 16th lay report.

She still followed me on Instagram and watches all the stuff I post.

She didn't want you to feel bad. But this one is low IL, high 60's.

I have a LOT of red flags on the Tea app

I'm not sure about democracy here in the United States. But with search bots that reveal user names and passwords and online activity such as Sherlock and Dyxless and fanstat, there is an option to opt out of searches. This option is paid. You should reach out to Tea app management and ask them if there is an option to opt out of searches. Here is a reddit post but do google searches and find out about this subject https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1m6jeqd
There must be a way to remove yourself, otherwise the law can catch up with them, that should be true for most jurisdictions.


P.S. That fast disgusting drunk pig must have put you up on that tea app. On the other hand, playa haterism is sign of success.

 

[sevbucmash]

Do we have any lawyers here? Can police be contacted and report filed for sale of personal information without user's consent?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Well first I am going to state the obvious.

Pulling women from bars and thinking these are likely going to be quality relationships would be like trying to jump in a swimming pool and not get wet.

It's just not going to happen. That's the first issue.

You are looking for a certain type of fish it seems like but you are going fishing where those don't exist, or at the very least are not conducive to that type of relationship forming.

IMO, you should be taking advantage of opportunities while you are out and about in the course of your daily life. That's where meeting someone conducive to quality relationships will be. Not a place fueled with alcohol , immaturity and drama.

It sounds like you are getting upset because you are looking for something in a place where you aren't likely to find it and then blaming others and "how things are now" instead of asking yourself "why am I trying to look for gold in a copper mine?"

 

[Captain Redbeard]

Chin up, OP. I know first-hand how painful it can be when you become a victim of the rumor mill. It may feel like the sky is falling but this will pass.

I also agree with others that it may be time to finally move on. A change of scenery would do wonders for the mental side of your game. I'll be interested to start reading about your exploits in Philly.

 

[Manure Spherian]

I don't really have a goal with this post, but last night I was out and it was quite bad, so I want to talk about it.

I was originally going to title this "The Tea App...", since that is the primary issue I had, but I also wanted to talk about 2 other instances of bad behavior that really disappointed me.

I think the reason I want to vent about this is that it describes something beyond my control, where I don't see a solution beyond simply going elsewhere.

Anyway...

Exhibit A

There was a girl I met on Thursday night. We hit it off, but she was with her friends and wanted to get to know me better. I took her number and left it at that, with the plan to see her the next night (Friday night). I texted her when I was on my way, and I ran into her near the bathroom, waiting for her friend after I got served my drink.

We hug, say hi, and make a little bit of small talk before her friend rejoins her. She mentions that they had both been at the bar since 7PM, but I commented that neither girl had a drink in their hand, and asked if they were done for the night.

They were not, and she replied by asking if I wanted to buy her a drink. The friend then chimes in and says "me too", to which my girl agreed, saying that "where I go, she goes". I just stare at them both for a moment - I'm kind of in disbelief at how quickly we went from "hello" to "buy us both drinks". I turn to my girl and ask if she's gonna buy me a drink after I buy her one...

She says "maybe", but the friend chimes in again and says "no, that's not how this works". She then proceeds to shame me for saying this in a variety of ways, starting with asking if I have a job, and whether I couldn't afford drinks...then saying I mustn't be a real man, and asking if I wanted to bring in another guy to compensate...then proceeding to chant "STINGY! STINGY! STINGY!"

I'm just staring at them both in silence, again, in disbelief at this behavior. Most of it was the friend, but my girl didn't say anything - just stared at me, waiting to see whether I'd do what her friend said.

So I said nothing, walked away, and deleted that girl's number.

Exhibit B

There was a girl I met last week at this bar. We sorta hit it off, but the interest didn't seem high enough - I had her number and we followed each other on Instagram, but she rarely texted back. We also saw each other on multiple nights that week, and she never really made time for me when I was there.

Basically, she's probably not that interested, but she's also not rejecting me, so when I saw her last night after having had several drinks, I figured it couldn't hurt to say hi and feel things out.

She was happy to see me...but her friend...

I think I might've mentioned this somewhere within the last week, but in case I'm misremembering, this girl has an extremely average-looking friend who is belligerently drunk every time I see her, leading to the girl I'm interested in always taking care of her and doing what she wants.

This friend STRONGLY dislikes me. The reason? Because I'm 31 years old. She finds it creepy and predatory that I'm at a college bar, by myself, talking to women 9-10 years younger than myself. And she is making that especially known tonight - to the point where the girl I came for has barely said anything, and as in the example of Exhibit A, hasn't intervened or said anything to put a stop to her friend's tirade.

I see there is no "win" to be had here, so I say "you girls have fun", then walk away to continue my night.

Exhibit C

So this is the one I REALLY want to talk about...

Remember the girl I wrote about a mere 2 weeks ago for my 106th lay report? Long story short, we met up at the bar for the second time that weekend, things went well and I left the bar with her, I prevented a fight after her friend's drunken boyfriend punched a random guy in the face, f***ed twice at her place, spent the night, had some pillow talk in the morning, kissed her goodbye, then texted her later and I mentioned she liked my messages.

Since then, she hadn't been free due to midterms. We saw each other at the bar last weekend, and she smiled at me with her same friend, but she wasn't interested in hooking up that night - she said she just didn't feel like it that night. She would later text me that she's not interested in anything right now because she's a senior and feels that she needs to get her life together in preparation for graduating. I told her I understood, and that was it. She still followed me on Instagram and watches all the stuff I post.

After both the above events last night, I saw her and her girlfriend sitting in a booth and came over to say hi. The vibe was very different this time...

They both looked disgusted by me. I asked what was wrong. They tell me I have a LOT of red flags on the Tea app, stating that women are calling me manipulative, abusive, and plenty of other terrible things. Now, I figured that I was on the app, but I'm surprised that whatever's being said about me is enough to convince two women who thought positively about me 1-2 weeks ago that I'm now a terrible person.

And I tell them this: that I thought they knew me a little better than that, how I spent the night with this girl, and kept her friend's boyfriend from getting his a** kicked. But they're now adamant that I'm a creepy guy preying on younger women at a college bar, and want nothing to do with me.

I leave them alone, and later text my girl that I'm a bit disappointed that, despite having spent time with me in person, she's valuing a "review" of me made by an anonymous stranger on an app. That turns into a back-and-forth discussion that would resume for a short time in the morning.

It boils down to her calling me a predator, thinking it's really creepy that I think she's hot when she's 10 years younger than me, and saying that my behavior is juvenile while comparing me to her 30-year-old brother. She goes on to say that somebody on the app called me "physically abusive", which she takes very seriously, discredits my role in preventing the fight her friend's boyfriend almost caused because I "didn't do sh**, it's because WE were all there", and then going so far as to say I must've followed her home that night to sleep with her because she was blacked out.

No mention of the conversation we had in the morning, kissing me goodbye, liking my text messages, following me on Instagram - none of that. But at this point, that didn't matter, so I just deleted her number and blocked her.

The reason this bothers me so is because I can't imagine what's being said about me if it's enough to convince somebody who's already met me that I must be vastly different than the person they met - and those claims can be made anonymously, with zero recourse for the person being "reviewed", and zero consequence for the person being dishonest with their "review".

I'm now wondering how many women at this bar have read the same things about me that this girl above has read, and believe them.

I actually used a selfie of my mom to see if I would get accepted on the app. I know it won't change anything, and I figured I was on it, but I'm curious how bad it must really be. And, for the record, the vetting process is a selfie...you don't need a picture of your ID, you can select whatever city, and you're hidden behind a username you create for yourself. There's a 72-hour waitlist to be approved, because this app has over 1,000,000 users pending approval, and is the #1 downloaded app under Lifestyle...

Like I said, I don't really have a goal with this post; I'm just very disappointed in the state of modern dating for men...I feel I'm living in the worst timeline to be a man...at least in terms of dating.

Chris Evans started dating the woman he's now married to when he was 40 and she was 24. Leonardo DiCaprio is infamous for his "cutoff age" of 25 when it comes to the women he dates, while he is 50. But I do the same as a younger man, with a smaller age gap, and I'm a predator?

I'd mentioned before that I'm starting to see the same girls at this bar over and over again. I'll probably start to go elsewhere, like Philly, or just not go out at all for a while.

I'm just extremely disappointed and wanted to share and vent about this experience.

You’re all bent out of shape because after 106 sex partners some broads totally inconsequential in your life said and thought mean things about you. Gimme a break. Lol.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Sadly, this is one of the cons of dating younger women, which is immaturity. They don’t really know themselves yet, and their main guidance metric is the approval of their friends. Regardless of their opinion about you, the friends will always act as each other’s moral police. They lack the emotional and social experience to separate gossip from reality, and they treat dating like a group sport instead of an individual experience.

Lastly, I’m not too knowledgeable about the Tea app, but I have a girl who’s in the Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook page and keeps me updated on the ridiculous stories and the scene in general. I recently found out that a lot of women are being catfished by men using AI-generated pictures, so now the apps and even the women themselves are starting to ask for ID to confirm people are real.

Either way, and back to the topic, another point of view, based on what other posters have said, is that they’re not looking at you like this because of your age but because they see you as a serial dater: someone who’s always dating around, meeting new women, and not committing seriously. Those pages love to target guys who date multiple women or seem to be “running the same game,” and they often label them as manipulative or emotionally unavailable, even when that’s not the case. I know those groups focus on exposing these serial daters mainly because they view them as time wasters and men who lead women on without offering or intentions to commit.

 

[pipeman84]

Sadly, this is one of the cons of dating younger women, which is immaturity. They don’t really know themselves yet, and their main guidance metric is the approval of their friends.

That's a red herring.
The real issue is that OP's having sex with ditzy bimbos, who are probably under the influence and who are a very short step removed from full blown sex workers.
The girl in question meets him for the second time at a bar, takes him to her home and has sex with him. A man she barely knew.

As I'm getting dressed, we're making some small talk; she asked if I had classes today, to which I responded that I'm older, revealing that I'm 31 years old. She was surprised, but not at all disappointed, remarking that I'm "not the oldest she's been with".

In this context, to paraphrase the quote from Scarface, "Every day above ground is a good day," ... every day without a MeToo allegation is a good day.

 

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I'm not sure about democracy here in the United States. But with search bots that reveal user names and passwords and online activity such as Sherlock and Dyxless and fanstat, there is an option to opt out of searches. This option is paid. You should reach out to Tea app management and ask them if there is an option to opt out of searches. Here is a reddit post but do google searches and find out about this subject https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1m6jeqd

This is actually a pretty useful option to know about.

IMO, you should be taking advantage of opportunities while you are out and about in the course of your daily life. That's where meeting someone conducive to quality relationships will be. Not a place fueled with alcohol , immaturity and drama.

It sounds like you are getting upset because you are looking for something in a place where you aren't likely to find it and then blaming others and "how things are now" instead of asking yourself "why am I trying to look for gold in a copper mine?"

Well, I don't meet women in my day-to-day life, which is why I go out of my way to these places on the weekends. The only environment for that would be the gym, and I've been going to this one for long enough that I know who just about every hot girl's boyfriend is.

I don't think I'm seeing to "blame others", I'm just disappointed in this system that society has built for men when it comes to dating. I don't expect to be treated the same way as a celebrity or movie star, but to be treated as a villain? I consider myself a pretty good-looking guy, and I know how to talk to and seduce women better than most men...if this is MY experience, imagine how bad THEIRS is.

I can understand why we have the male loneliness epidemic that we do.

You’re all bent out of shape because after 106 sex partners some broads totally inconsequential in your life said and thought mean things about you. Gimme a break. Lol.

I don't know why you're always so negative on my posts...I'm upset because anonymous women are making false and borderline criminal accusations against me in a way that is affecting my potential future, and apparently current relationships with women in the city where I live.

Yeah, I think that's a bit problematic...

The real issue is that OP's having sex with ditzy bimbos, who are probably under the influence and who are a very short step removed from full blown sex workers.
The girl in question meets him for the second time at a bar, takes him to her home and has sex with him. A man she barely knew.

I think you believe that level of promiscuity to be less common than it is. It's no different than meeting a woman and then banging her at the end of whatever date you've set up...you've still only met twice, but at the bar/club you can condense both those moments to the same night.