bigjohnson
Master Don Juan
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Apparently I'm 'infracted' so I guess the time I spend there is over? Ah well. Love (Shack) has abandoned me again.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's not a big deal, there's no worry per se, but the fact is since some of us were "exposed", our threads were deleted. How can we get any advise across if it just gets deleted?HOMBRE said:Also, what's the big deal about one of your own exposing you. I mean if you're so sure and proud of your message, why worry about them knowing who you are?
Mr.Positive said:.... once our usernames got flagged....
:crackup:Interceptor said:What the Hell happened?
Somebody fill me in . please
Thanks
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
let me pass you the popcorn brother!Interceptor said:What the Hell happened?
Somebody fill me in . please
Thanks
Well, I won't go back. To be honest, sosuave is the only internet forum I participate in. I try to not spend to much time on the internet, unless researching something. I think, for me, the biggest thing I learned is how proud I am of the camaraderie and teamwork that was involved here. If I can contribute advise, or seek advise, it will be here, on sosuave.bigjohnson said:I messaged the staff, so if there's any objectivity there I'll be back, othrwise it will be either a sockpuppet or they will have to stay a pink-only zone.
Colonel KontrollerX is right.KontrollerX said:"Why did you feel you had anything to prove over there?"
It wasn't about proving anything so much as it was about being a philanthropy mission to save people from the horrible advice that is all over your site.
When to "admonish your adversities?" Whaaa? Okie, dokie.KarmaSutra said:Colonel KontrollerX is right.
Hombre, we appreciate your input (no matter how we disagree) and want you to share your own unique perspective.
What happened in the past is dead. Let it remain dead.
Part of maturity is knowing when to fight the good fight and when to admonish your adversities.
HOMBRE said:Mr. Positive, I have no doubt you'd agree with my advice. I will not reveal my identity though.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well I think KX might have ruined a few perfectly good panties over there. Funny how the whiff of some testosterone can stir up the ladies. lol.Mr.Positive said:Well, I won't go back.
Actually, not really. The buzz is that they're glad he's gone. Takes a lot more than that to stir the LS ladies up.bigjohnson said:Well I think KX might have ruined a few perfectly good panties over there. Funny how the whiff of some testosterone can stir up the ladies. lol.
Haha, kind of like running into a beehive with out a good bee suit on.bigjohnson said:Well I think KX might have ruined a few perfectly good panties over there. Funny how the whiff of some testosterone can stir up the ladies. lol.
Yep...kinda ironic huh? Kinda like the "buzz" around here about going into battle and "teaching" the pink site about things, right? Gathering the troops and all, don't ya know.reset said:There's a buzz about something they don't care about and didn't bother them? lol.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Agreed.reset said:touche.
Well, whatever. This whole thing is about as serious as you want to make it I suppose.
I think it was equally funny and cool. No one died. That's the main thing. A bloodless battle.
Absolutely. You must be a Real Man to recognize that.frivolousz21 said:this is the most gay thing Ive ever seen.
By using the term "gay", I sincerely hope you meant the definition of cheery, bright, or pleasant.HOMBRE said:Absolutely. You must be a Real Man to recognize that.![]()
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.