bigjohnson
Master Don Juan
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Apparently I'm 'infracted' so I guess the time I spend there is over? Ah well. Love (Shack) has abandoned me again.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's not a big deal, there's no worry per se, but the fact is since some of us were "exposed", our threads were deleted. How can we get any advise across if it just gets deleted?HOMBRE said:Also, what's the big deal about one of your own exposing you. I mean if you're so sure and proud of your message, why worry about them knowing who you are?
Mr.Positive said:.... once our usernames got flagged....
:crackup:Interceptor said:What the Hell happened?
Somebody fill me in . please
Thanks
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
let me pass you the popcorn brother!Interceptor said:What the Hell happened?
Somebody fill me in . please
Thanks
Well, I won't go back. To be honest, sosuave is the only internet forum I participate in. I try to not spend to much time on the internet, unless researching something. I think, for me, the biggest thing I learned is how proud I am of the camaraderie and teamwork that was involved here. If I can contribute advise, or seek advise, it will be here, on sosuave.bigjohnson said:I messaged the staff, so if there's any objectivity there I'll be back, othrwise it will be either a sockpuppet or they will have to stay a pink-only zone.
Colonel KontrollerX is right.KontrollerX said:"Why did you feel you had anything to prove over there?"
It wasn't about proving anything so much as it was about being a philanthropy mission to save people from the horrible advice that is all over your site.
When to "admonish your adversities?" Whaaa? Okie, dokie.KarmaSutra said:Colonel KontrollerX is right.
Hombre, we appreciate your input (no matter how we disagree) and want you to share your own unique perspective.
What happened in the past is dead. Let it remain dead.
Part of maturity is knowing when to fight the good fight and when to admonish your adversities.
HOMBRE said:Mr. Positive, I have no doubt you'd agree with my advice. I will not reveal my identity though.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Well I think KX might have ruined a few perfectly good panties over there. Funny how the whiff of some testosterone can stir up the ladies. lol.Mr.Positive said:Well, I won't go back.
Actually, not really. The buzz is that they're glad he's gone. Takes a lot more than that to stir the LS ladies up.bigjohnson said:Well I think KX might have ruined a few perfectly good panties over there. Funny how the whiff of some testosterone can stir up the ladies. lol.
Haha, kind of like running into a beehive with out a good bee suit on.bigjohnson said:Well I think KX might have ruined a few perfectly good panties over there. Funny how the whiff of some testosterone can stir up the ladies. lol.
Yep...kinda ironic huh? Kinda like the "buzz" around here about going into battle and "teaching" the pink site about things, right? Gathering the troops and all, don't ya know.reset said:There's a buzz about something they don't care about and didn't bother them? lol.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Agreed.reset said:touche.
Well, whatever. This whole thing is about as serious as you want to make it I suppose.
I think it was equally funny and cool. No one died. That's the main thing. A bloodless battle.
Absolutely. You must be a Real Man to recognize that.frivolousz21 said:this is the most gay thing Ive ever seen.
By using the term "gay", I sincerely hope you meant the definition of cheery, bright, or pleasant.HOMBRE said:Absolutely. You must be a Real Man to recognize that.![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.