lamobatsman
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How do you know if a girl is just using you. For example as a tourist guide or for other reasons apart from genuinely liking you?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
how to tell if ur being used
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
a girl is always using you.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
MisterSisterFister
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Are you putting the P into the V?
Have you tasted the pie?
Have you tasted the pie?
Mr Wright
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The majority of human contact is one person trying to get something from the other if you really dismantle it to the component parts. I wouldn't waste your grey matter wondering about what to do about it. There are objects and subjects, you can be one or the other.
VladPatton
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Everybody uses someone. So, you may as well be banging her to make yourself feel better. If you're being used without banging, you're just paying for something and not getting it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
CaptainSaveAh0
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If you have to ask yourself " Am I being used?" you are most likely being used ..
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
Dhoulmagus
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thisCaptainSaveAh0 said:
SgtSplacker
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It's not about trying to figure out what she wants. It's about her doing what you want. And if she's not doing it then she gets nothing from me, but chances to do what I want...
lamobatsman
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i feel like every girl i like uses me. even when i ask them they say im being stupid and then they will **** me over after i give them a chance and then they become very nasty and resentful to me.
Bokanovsky
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If you are not getting what YOU want out of a relationship, you're being used. If you're doing something for her that you'd rather not do, you're being used. If you suspect that you're being used, you probably are.lamobatsman said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
GotED?
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This is a very wise analysis coming from a 21 year old.Mr Wright said:
+1 repped.
Keep on figuring the intricacies of human relationships and interactions. Sooner you get it, the less heartache you will suffer.
Exodus
devilkingx2
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ask yourself these questions
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
Bro you have to fight back. I used to take such bs, even when they were subtly putting me down, pretending to laugh with me but instead laughing at me. I would act so grateful they were allegedly my friends and cared about me that I would buy them dinner and lunch just so I could tell people I knew two or three girls....lamobatsman said:
Then I freakin woke up. Now any text or offhand comment that may imply a put down, I respond harshly and it doesn't happen again.
The point being you have to fight back, these girls don't care if you are dead or alive. They don't phone you every night to check on you, they don't give you money, they don't give you sex. If they can use you to make themselves look good for 0.5 seconds, they will.
Fight back! :box:
If you're doing them favors and getting nothing in returnlamobatsman said:
.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212695
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.