lamobatsman
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How do you know if a girl is just using you. For example as a tourist guide or for other reasons apart from genuinely liking you?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
how to tell if ur being used
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
a girl is always using you.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
MisterSisterFister
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Are you putting the P into the V?
Have you tasted the pie?
Have you tasted the pie?
Mr Wright
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The majority of human contact is one person trying to get something from the other if you really dismantle it to the component parts. I wouldn't waste your grey matter wondering about what to do about it. There are objects and subjects, you can be one or the other.
VladPatton
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Everybody uses someone. So, you may as well be banging her to make yourself feel better. If you're being used without banging, you're just paying for something and not getting it.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
CaptainSaveAh0
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If you have to ask yourself " Am I being used?" you are most likely being used ..
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
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thisCaptainSaveAh0 said:
SgtSplacker
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It's not about trying to figure out what she wants. It's about her doing what you want. And if she's not doing it then she gets nothing from me, but chances to do what I want...
lamobatsman
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i feel like every girl i like uses me. even when i ask them they say im being stupid and then they will **** me over after i give them a chance and then they become very nasty and resentful to me.
Bokanovsky
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If you are not getting what YOU want out of a relationship, you're being used. If you're doing something for her that you'd rather not do, you're being used. If you suspect that you're being used, you probably are.lamobatsman said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GotED?
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This is a very wise analysis coming from a 21 year old.Mr Wright said:
+1 repped.
Keep on figuring the intricacies of human relationships and interactions. Sooner you get it, the less heartache you will suffer.
Exodus
devilkingx2
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ask yourself these questions
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
Bro you have to fight back. I used to take such bs, even when they were subtly putting me down, pretending to laugh with me but instead laughing at me. I would act so grateful they were allegedly my friends and cared about me that I would buy them dinner and lunch just so I could tell people I knew two or three girls....lamobatsman said:
Then I freakin woke up. Now any text or offhand comment that may imply a put down, I respond harshly and it doesn't happen again.
The point being you have to fight back, these girls don't care if you are dead or alive. They don't phone you every night to check on you, they don't give you money, they don't give you sex. If they can use you to make themselves look good for 0.5 seconds, they will.
Fight back! :box:
If you're doing them favors and getting nothing in returnlamobatsman said:
.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212695
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.