lamobatsman
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How do you know if a girl is just using you. For example as a tourist guide or for other reasons apart from genuinely liking you?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
how to tell if ur being used
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
a girl is always using you.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
MisterSisterFister
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Are you putting the P into the V?
Have you tasted the pie?
Have you tasted the pie?
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
The majority of human contact is one person trying to get something from the other if you really dismantle it to the component parts. I wouldn't waste your grey matter wondering about what to do about it. There are objects and subjects, you can be one or the other.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Everybody uses someone. So, you may as well be banging her to make yourself feel better. If you're being used without banging, you're just paying for something and not getting it.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
CaptainSaveAh0
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If you have to ask yourself " Am I being used?" you are most likely being used ..
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
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thisCaptainSaveAh0 said:
SgtSplacker
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It's not about trying to figure out what she wants. It's about her doing what you want. And if she's not doing it then she gets nothing from me, but chances to do what I want...
lamobatsman
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i feel like every girl i like uses me. even when i ask them they say im being stupid and then they will **** me over after i give them a chance and then they become very nasty and resentful to me.
Bokanovsky
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If you are not getting what YOU want out of a relationship, you're being used. If you're doing something for her that you'd rather not do, you're being used. If you suspect that you're being used, you probably are.lamobatsman said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
GotED?
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This is a very wise analysis coming from a 21 year old.Mr Wright said:
+1 repped.
Keep on figuring the intricacies of human relationships and interactions. Sooner you get it, the less heartache you will suffer.
Exodus
devilkingx2
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ask yourself these questions
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
Bro you have to fight back. I used to take such bs, even when they were subtly putting me down, pretending to laugh with me but instead laughing at me. I would act so grateful they were allegedly my friends and cared about me that I would buy them dinner and lunch just so I could tell people I knew two or three girls....lamobatsman said:
Then I freakin woke up. Now any text or offhand comment that may imply a put down, I respond harshly and it doesn't happen again.
The point being you have to fight back, these girls don't care if you are dead or alive. They don't phone you every night to check on you, they don't give you money, they don't give you sex. If they can use you to make themselves look good for 0.5 seconds, they will.
Fight back! :box:
If you're doing them favors and getting nothing in returnlamobatsman said:
.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212695
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.