lamobatsman
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How do you know if a girl is just using you. For example as a tourist guide or for other reasons apart from genuinely liking you?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how to tell if ur being used
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
narcissist
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a girl is always using you.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
if you don't know that then you haven't learned anything.
MisterSisterFister
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Are you putting the P into the V?
Have you tasted the pie?
Have you tasted the pie?
Mr Wright
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The majority of human contact is one person trying to get something from the other if you really dismantle it to the component parts. I wouldn't waste your grey matter wondering about what to do about it. There are objects and subjects, you can be one or the other.
VladPatton
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Everybody uses someone. So, you may as well be banging her to make yourself feel better. If you're being used without banging, you're just paying for something and not getting it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
CaptainSaveAh0
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If you have to ask yourself " Am I being used?" you are most likely being used ..
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
Know what you are getting yourself into and know what you want out of this girl. If you know those 2 things then you will not be asking this question.
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thisCaptainSaveAh0 said:
SgtSplacker
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It's not about trying to figure out what she wants. It's about her doing what you want. And if she's not doing it then she gets nothing from me, but chances to do what I want...
lamobatsman
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i feel like every girl i like uses me. even when i ask them they say im being stupid and then they will **** me over after i give them a chance and then they become very nasty and resentful to me.
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If you are not getting what YOU want out of a relationship, you're being used. If you're doing something for her that you'd rather not do, you're being used. If you suspect that you're being used, you probably are.lamobatsman said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GotED?
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This is a very wise analysis coming from a 21 year old.Mr Wright said:
+1 repped.
Keep on figuring the intricacies of human relationships and interactions. Sooner you get it, the less heartache you will suffer.
Exodus
devilkingx2
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ask yourself these questions
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
1. what does she get from our relationship?
2. what do I?
3. who gets more? slightly or a lot more?
3 is the most important question, the other 2 are just food for thought
(optional) 4. who's getting what they really want: me, her, both of us or neither of us?
Bro you have to fight back. I used to take such bs, even when they were subtly putting me down, pretending to laugh with me but instead laughing at me. I would act so grateful they were allegedly my friends and cared about me that I would buy them dinner and lunch just so I could tell people I knew two or three girls....lamobatsman said:
Then I freakin woke up. Now any text or offhand comment that may imply a put down, I respond harshly and it doesn't happen again.
The point being you have to fight back, these girls don't care if you are dead or alive. They don't phone you every night to check on you, they don't give you money, they don't give you sex. If they can use you to make themselves look good for 0.5 seconds, they will.
Fight back! :box:
If you're doing them favors and getting nothing in returnlamobatsman said:
.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212695
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.