Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to respond when a girl calls you an a $ $ h 0 l e?

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So what are some good responses and reactions for when a girl calls you an a-hole? Aside from ignoring her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Depends on if she is calling you an a-hole because she's kidding and has a smile on, or if she's actually pissed.

You can always just say: "Yeah, and you love it."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lots of girls say it to me and I don't know why. I remember one of the girls that said it to me said it after I asked her if she had fun fooling around with some other guy.
 
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Don't ever feel offended or loose ground when they call you an *******.

It really depends on your relationship dynamic with her. Have you two been friends? or is this someone you've started dating?

In most cases, what I'd do is...

Playfully thank her and say... is "Yes, I'm an ******* - but don't worry, I'm working on it."
 
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Demystify said:
Lots of girls say it to me and I don't know why. I remember one of the girls that said it to me said it after I asked her if she had fun fooling around with some other guy.
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The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?

You can end up not caring what they say or think of you, but if that isn't yielding the results you want, you better start changing your approach and perhaps tuning down your charm a little bit.

Are these girls who you are actually interested in?
Are they interested in you, or is it just you interested in them?
Again, what type of relationships/interactions do you tend to end up having with these girls?
 
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NARIGON said:
The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?

You can end up not caring what they say or think of you, but if that isn't yielding the results you want, you better start changing your approach and perhaps tuning down your charm a little bit.

Are these girls who you are actually interested in?
Are they interested in you, or is it just you interested in them?
Again, what type of relationships/interactions do you tend to end up having with these girls?
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This is before I have sex with, sometimes I'll make out with them but not always. And like I said, lots of girls say this so it's not something where I can just ignore the girl and move on to someone else. I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Demystify said:
I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.
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You don't need a C&F or witty comment for everything a girl says. If a girl called me an assh0le I would either ignore it completely, laugh at her or say something ****y like "yeah yeah you love it" depending on how she said it.
 
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When HBgirly-girl lashes out at you verbally or physically, tries to call you on something, tries to embarrass you or calls you any kind of name or whatever.........don't get angry, flustrated, physical or lash back in any way.... JUST LAUGH!!....laugh out loud to yourself as if you were amused by a by a cute comment from a six year old......because for all intents and purposes thats what she is and that's what's happening....laughing outloud sends her that message too .....and your lack of any other response will short circuit her girly-brain and her rage or anger will turn to confusion then self doubt....I actually do this all the time now and when I started was surprised how well it works!!
 
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I'd totally pull a Dane Cook from "My best friend's girl". A chick called him an assh*le and he replied, " Then walk away." and just looked into her eyes with a smirk. Then again, I'll sometimes wear a shirt that says" C'mon, its not gonna suck itself!" You get awesome looks from people in the grocery store while wearing that shirt!
 
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she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me

..people with good sense of humor would understand
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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tappa said:
she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me

..people with good sense of humor would understand
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LOLLL thats awesome.
 
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Her: you are an ***hole

You: Thanks.


This is by far the best response. Better than ignoring.
 
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