She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?Demystify said:Lots of girls say it to me and I don't know why. I remember one of the girls that said it to me said it after I asked her if she had fun fooling around with some other guy.
This is before I have sex with, sometimes I'll make out with them but not always. And like I said, lots of girls say this so it's not something where I can just ignore the girl and move on to someone else. I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.NARIGON said:The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?
You can end up not caring what they say or think of you, but if that isn't yielding the results you want, you better start changing your approach and perhaps tuning down your charm a little bit.
Are these girls who you are actually interested in?
Are they interested in you, or is it just you interested in them?
Again, what type of relationships/interactions do you tend to end up having with these girls?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You don't need a C&F or witty comment for everything a girl says. If a girl called me an assh0le I would either ignore it completely, laugh at her or say something ****y like "yeah yeah you love it" depending on how she said it.Demystify said:I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
tappa said:she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me
..people with good sense of humor would understand
:crackup:tappa said:she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me
..people with good sense of humor would understand