"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to respond when a girl calls you an a $ $ h 0 l e?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It really depends on your relationship dynamic with her. Have you two been friends? or is this someone you've started dating?
In most cases, what I'd do is...
Playfully thank her and say... is "Yes, I'm an ******* - but don't worry, I'm working on it."
The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?Demystify said:
You can end up not caring what they say or think of you, but if that isn't yielding the results you want, you better start changing your approach and perhaps tuning down your charm a little bit.
Are these girls who you are actually interested in?
Are they interested in you, or is it just you interested in them?
Again, what type of relationships/interactions do you tend to end up having with these girls?
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This is before I have sex with, sometimes I'll make out with them but not always. And like I said, lots of girls say this so it's not something where I can just ignore the girl and move on to someone else. I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.NARIGON said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You don't need a C&F or witty comment for everything a girl says. If a girl called me an assh0le I would either ignore it completely, laugh at her or say something ****y like "yeah yeah you love it" depending on how she said it.Demystify said:
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Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/01/29/chicks-dig-jerks-a-series-3/
tappa
Don Juan
you: you cant do s**t without me
..people with good sense of humor would understand
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
CarlitosWay
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You: Get it ****in' right a good looking *******!