"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to respond when a girl calls you an a $ $ h 0 l e?

Demystify

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So what are some good responses and reactions for when a girl calls you an a-hole? Aside from ignoring her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Depends on if she is calling you an a-hole because she's kidding and has a smile on, or if she's actually pissed.

You can always just say: "Yeah, and you love it."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Demystify

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Lots of girls say it to me and I don't know why. I remember one of the girls that said it to me said it after I asked her if she had fun fooling around with some other guy.
 

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Don't ever feel offended or loose ground when they call you an *******.

It really depends on your relationship dynamic with her. Have you two been friends? or is this someone you've started dating?

In most cases, what I'd do is...

Playfully thank her and say... is "Yes, I'm an ******* - but don't worry, I'm working on it."
 

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Demystify said:
Lots of girls say it to me and I don't know why. I remember one of the girls that said it to me said it after I asked her if she had fun fooling around with some other guy.
The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?

You can end up not caring what they say or think of you, but if that isn't yielding the results you want, you better start changing your approach and perhaps tuning down your charm a little bit.

Are these girls who you are actually interested in?
Are they interested in you, or is it just you interested in them?
Again, what type of relationships/interactions do you tend to end up having with these girls?
 

Demystify

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NARIGON said:
The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?

You can end up not caring what they say or think of you, but if that isn't yielding the results you want, you better start changing your approach and perhaps tuning down your charm a little bit.

Are these girls who you are actually interested in?
Are they interested in you, or is it just you interested in them?
Again, what type of relationships/interactions do you tend to end up having with these girls?
This is before I have sex with, sometimes I'll make out with them but not always. And like I said, lots of girls say this so it's not something where I can just ignore the girl and move on to someone else. I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Demystify said:
I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.
You don't need a C&F or witty comment for everything a girl says. If a girl called me an assh0le I would either ignore it completely, laugh at her or say something ****y like "yeah yeah you love it" depending on how she said it.
 

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When HBgirly-girl lashes out at you verbally or physically, tries to call you on something, tries to embarrass you or calls you any kind of name or whatever.........don't get angry, flustrated, physical or lash back in any way.... JUST LAUGH!!....laugh out loud to yourself as if you were amused by a by a cute comment from a six year old......because for all intents and purposes thats what she is and that's what's happening....laughing outloud sends her that message too .....and your lack of any other response will short circuit her girly-brain and her rage or anger will turn to confusion then self doubt....I actually do this all the time now and when I started was surprised how well it works!!
 

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I'd totally pull a Dane Cook from "My best friend's girl". A chick called him an assh*le and he replied, " Then walk away." and just looked into her eyes with a smirk. Then again, I'll sometimes wear a shirt that says" C'mon, its not gonna suck itself!" You get awesome looks from people in the grocery store while wearing that shirt!
 

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she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me

..people with good sense of humor would understand
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tappa said:
she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me

..people with good sense of humor would understand

LOLLL thats awesome.
 

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Her: you are an ***hole

You: Thanks.


This is by far the best response. Better than ignoring.
 
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