You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?Demystify said:Lots of girls say it to me and I don't know why. I remember one of the girls that said it to me said it after I asked her if she had fun fooling around with some other guy.
This is before I have sex with, sometimes I'll make out with them but not always. And like I said, lots of girls say this so it's not something where I can just ignore the girl and move on to someone else. I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.NARIGON said:The better question is, are you getting physically/romantically involved with these women at all, either before or after they call you that? In other words, have you usually slept or end up having sex with these women, or they just get mad at you and it never really goes anywhere?
You can end up not caring what they say or think of you, but if that isn't yielding the results you want, you better start changing your approach and perhaps tuning down your charm a little bit.
Are these girls who you are actually interested in?
Are they interested in you, or is it just you interested in them?
Again, what type of relationships/interactions do you tend to end up having with these girls?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You don't need a C&F or witty comment for everything a girl says. If a girl called me an assh0le I would either ignore it completely, laugh at her or say something ****y like "yeah yeah you love it" depending on how she said it.Demystify said:I'd like to know a good way to respond to this kind of statement.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
tappa said:she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me
..people with good sense of humor would understand
:crackup:tappa said:she: your an *******
you: you cant do s**t without me
..people with good sense of humor would understand