You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Crissco said:Just cleared my inbox.
Like I said in one of my last posts. Ide rather have the info in my head for when the situation comes up. It makes things a lot easier.
When girls mention that, I act like I didnt even see it, and it still doesnt work. Im obv doing something wrong here
Then they mention what are we gonig to do this late. I usually respond with a movie or just straight out say I want to see them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
hahahaa I think i might try that one out for the hell of itEase said:You got to say 'Baby you are not a booty call i just started thinking about you and wanted to see you so bad. I've been wanting to call you all day but i've been so busy so come over right now and lets do it like discovery channel'.
That aint gonna work for me bro lol Not my stylechiyeung said:I say "lets play chutes and ladders"
ha ha that was the first thing that came to mind.scorpio1138 said:Candyland then...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.