"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to figure out if someone is in a relationship
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- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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CuddleJunkie
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This.
She has no boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has no boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.
She has boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.
This would classify as a buffer against rejection (yes, I'm re-reading The Rational Male). This said, in the "stop overthinking" ways of DonJuanism, the question is good, and we should be interested in the answers if only because of curiosity about female body language when in the "honeymoon" phase.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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GoodOne123
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Mid conversation just say "are you single by the way?" or if you want to be polite say "excuse me if I'm being a bit direct, but I wanted to know if you're single?". If it's a yes then ask them out on a date. But usually you can tell if a girl is single and interested just by her vibe.
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This is why it's suggested to collect prospects all the time. Game on all the time, try not think of it as waste of time it's all practice, push to escalate & get sum action.
There are broads out there always looking to monkey branch and or have multiple guys they are seeing as well. Just get use to the fact that it is part of the game & you shouldn't give 2 fvcks. You will eventually meet some that will lie about it's inevitable. It happens ALL the time.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
marmel75
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It's irrelevant if they have a boyfriend, husband, or whatever. It's not a mans job to be a fvcking detective. It's a mans job to go for what he wants.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
if she says she has a boyfriend, always counter with
"I didnt ask if you have a boyfriend, I asked you out for a drink"
RangerMIke
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True. However, some women in relationships will go out with you if they are attracted and/or their relationship is weak and she is looking for validation. You can figure this out on your date when you attempt to escalate. Eventually she will tell you and let you know the deal if anything is going to happen. At that point follow your conscious. I never mess with women in relationships, too much trouble and it really isn't a lot of fun working around this BS. I know some guys that carry on affairs with married women all the time.... and it seems to work for them, I guess it's an element of excitement, if this is you what do I care. If I want excitement, I'll go skydiving or rock climbing.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.