"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to figure out if someone is in a relationship
- Thread starter Prodoge
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dustmuffin
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CuddleJunkie
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This.
She has no boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has no boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.
She has boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.
This would classify as a buffer against rejection (yes, I'm re-reading The Rational Male). This said, in the "stop overthinking" ways of DonJuanism, the question is good, and we should be interested in the answers if only because of curiosity about female body language when in the "honeymoon" phase.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt
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GoodOne123
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Mid conversation just say "are you single by the way?" or if you want to be polite say "excuse me if I'm being a bit direct, but I wanted to know if you're single?". If it's a yes then ask them out on a date. But usually you can tell if a girl is single and interested just by her vibe.
hockeyfreak79
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This is why it's suggested to collect prospects all the time. Game on all the time, try not think of it as waste of time it's all practice, push to escalate & get sum action.
There are broads out there always looking to monkey branch and or have multiple guys they are seeing as well. Just get use to the fact that it is part of the game & you shouldn't give 2 fvcks. You will eventually meet some that will lie about it's inevitable. It happens ALL the time.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
marmel75
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It's irrelevant if they have a boyfriend, husband, or whatever. It's not a mans job to be a fvcking detective. It's a mans job to go for what he wants.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
if she says she has a boyfriend, always counter with
"I didnt ask if you have a boyfriend, I asked you out for a drink"
RangerMIke
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True. However, some women in relationships will go out with you if they are attracted and/or their relationship is weak and she is looking for validation. You can figure this out on your date when you attempt to escalate. Eventually she will tell you and let you know the deal if anything is going to happen. At that point follow your conscious. I never mess with women in relationships, too much trouble and it really isn't a lot of fun working around this BS. I know some guys that carry on affairs with married women all the time.... and it seems to work for them, I guess it's an element of excitement, if this is you what do I care. If I want excitement, I'll go skydiving or rock climbing.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.