"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How to figure out if someone is in a relationship

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Any easy subtle ways of working out if someone has a gf/bf to make sure to not be wasting time?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ask her out on a date - if she's interested and single, or even just interested; your answer will be yes.

If it's no - than she's not interested or tell you she has a BF, and even if she doesn't, you're wasting your time.
 

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Just ask them out. They say yes, no problem solved. You shouldn't be concerned with that.
 

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Just ask them out. They say yes, no problem solved. You shouldn't be concerned with that.
This.
She has no boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has no boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.
She has boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.

This would classify as a buffer against rejection (yes, I'm re-reading The Rational Male). This said, in the "stop overthinking" ways of DonJuanism, the question is good, and we should be interested in the answers if only because of curiosity about female body language when in the "honeymoon" phase.
 

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It has no bearing on anything. If you want to go out with them, ask them out.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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As soon as you start talking to her, she should realize why. And if she has a bf, she will bring him up in conversation immediately if she wants to reject you softly.
 

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Honestly, it's OK to just ask directly. In fact, most women will respect you more for this, since you are confident enough to state what you want and are not hiding your intentions from her.

Mid conversation just say "are you single by the way?" or if you want to be polite say "excuse me if I'm being a bit direct, but I wanted to know if you're single?". If it's a yes then ask them out on a date. But usually you can tell if a girl is single and interested just by her vibe.
 

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Any easy subtle ways of working out if someone has a gf/bf to make sure to not be wasting time?
This is why it's suggested to collect prospects all the time. Game on all the time, try not think of it as waste of time it's all practice, push to escalate & get sum action.

There are broads out there always looking to monkey branch and or have multiple guys they are seeing as well. Just get use to the fact that it is part of the game & you shouldn't give 2 fvcks. You will eventually meet some that will lie about it's inevitable. It happens ALL the time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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marmel75

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This is why it's suggested to collect prospects all the time. Game on all the time, try not think of it as waste of time it's all practice, push to escalate & get sum action.

There are broads out there always looking to monkey branch and or have multiple guys they are seeing as well. Just get use to the fact that it is part of the game & you shouldn't give 2 fvcks. You will eventually meet some that will lie about it's inevitable. It happens ALL the time.

It's irrelevant if they have a boyfriend, husband, or whatever. It's not a mans job to be a fvcking detective. It's a mans job to go for what he wants.
 

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Unrelated question: all this DJ lifestyle is it directly taken from Moliere's play ?
 

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never ask
if she says she has a boyfriend, always counter with
"I didnt ask if you have a boyfriend, I asked you out for a drink"
 

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Ask her out on a date - if she's interested and single, or even just interested; your answer will be yes.

If it's no - than she's not interested or tell you she has a BF, and even if she doesn't, you're wasting your time.
True. However, some women in relationships will go out with you if they are attracted and/or their relationship is weak and she is looking for validation. You can figure this out on your date when you attempt to escalate. Eventually she will tell you and let you know the deal if anything is going to happen. At that point follow your conscious. I never mess with women in relationships, too much trouble and it really isn't a lot of fun working around this BS. I know some guys that carry on affairs with married women all the time.... and it seems to work for them, I guess it's an element of excitement, if this is you what do I care. If I want excitement, I'll go skydiving or rock climbing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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