"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to figure out if someone is in a relationship
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- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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This.
She has no boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has no boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.
She has boyfriend and wants your d¡ck: she says yes.
She has boyfriend and does not want your d¡ck: she says no.
This would classify as a buffer against rejection (yes, I'm re-reading The Rational Male). This said, in the "stop overthinking" ways of DonJuanism, the question is good, and we should be interested in the answers if only because of curiosity about female body language when in the "honeymoon" phase.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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GoodOne123
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Mid conversation just say "are you single by the way?" or if you want to be polite say "excuse me if I'm being a bit direct, but I wanted to know if you're single?". If it's a yes then ask them out on a date. But usually you can tell if a girl is single and interested just by her vibe.
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This is why it's suggested to collect prospects all the time. Game on all the time, try not think of it as waste of time it's all practice, push to escalate & get sum action.
There are broads out there always looking to monkey branch and or have multiple guys they are seeing as well. Just get use to the fact that it is part of the game & you shouldn't give 2 fvcks. You will eventually meet some that will lie about it's inevitable. It happens ALL the time.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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It's irrelevant if they have a boyfriend, husband, or whatever. It's not a mans job to be a fvcking detective. It's a mans job to go for what he wants.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
if she says she has a boyfriend, always counter with
"I didnt ask if you have a boyfriend, I asked you out for a drink"
RangerMIke
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True. However, some women in relationships will go out with you if they are attracted and/or their relationship is weak and she is looking for validation. You can figure this out on your date when you attempt to escalate. Eventually she will tell you and let you know the deal if anything is going to happen. At that point follow your conscious. I never mess with women in relationships, too much trouble and it really isn't a lot of fun working around this BS. I know some guys that carry on affairs with married women all the time.... and it seems to work for them, I guess it's an element of excitement, if this is you what do I care. If I want excitement, I'll go skydiving or rock climbing.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.