AureliusMaximus
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In other words, good reasons for not date single moms...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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In other words, good reasons for not date single moms...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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This has never occurred with me and I have dated many. Sounds like stuff people get from reading a post from one person and think it happens all the time.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It’s happened to me 3 times before actually.
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Seems like you need to screen better.
People don’t always show their true colors up front.
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That's why you have to learn to ask unrelated questions that seemingly have nothing to do with what you are trying to learn but are directly related.
This is a skill and a highly valuable one to have and to hone.
AureliusMaximus
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Girls are experts at this. Some can keep up the appearance for months even years until the ring on the finger... comes along offer by some sad sod of a gun.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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That's good. I'll add that this is more applicable to a single mom's swipe app profile. If a man is to meet a single mom via in-person approaching, she won't say "my kids are my life" within the first 20 minutes of meeting her.
I won't date single moms and there are many single moms in my age range. It's a bad lifestyle match between a childless man and a single mom.
I won't date single moms and there are many single moms in my age range. It's a bad lifestyle match between a childless man and a single mom.
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Should've paid attention to her stretch marks and lifeless tits.
AureliusMaximus
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Three different men for her children, mental issues and takes pharma drugs, twice divorced, post wall and even then she thinks she can put up demands for a high value guy and on top of that; thinks that men will sign up for the "application" to be a walking wallet.
Just wow...
The delusion is real gents.
But on the flipside; it seems that many women seem to operate like this and has no real connection to the earth they ware walking on.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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She looks like she might be physically attractive at 33. 33 is still somewhat young. 40-45 year old men would go wild for someone 33. Based on looks alone, she could get interest from men 33-37 and even some horny younger men.View attachment 10245
Three different men for her children, mental issues and takes pharma drugs, twice divorced, post wall and even then she thinks she can put up demands for a high value guy and on top of that; thinks that men will sign up for the "application" to be a walking wallet.
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Just wow...
The delusion is real gents.
But on the flipside; it seems that many women seem to operate like this and has no real connection to the earth they ware walking on.
The problem is her baggage. 3 kids alone is enough baggage, even if all 3 kids were from the same man. It's probably worse that her 3 kids were from 3 different men. It seems like 2 of her kids were results of 2 relationships that involved wedding vows and a divorce. For me, I eliminate all single moms from consideration so that fact doesn't sway me any more negatively. 2 failed marriages doesn't reflect well on her.
Having an OF is a red flag for an extended relationship but passable for recreational use only depending on the man's goals.
Despite all her baggage, there will be no shortage of men who will swipe right on her and no shortage of men who will agree to a date with her. She could even get a commitment from a thirsty, desperate simp. She's not getting a commitment from a high value man. Even most medium value men will pass on that.
AureliusMaximus
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Sadly that is probably very true. Some thirsty dudes will likely sell their soul and fill out the "application" and hope to "get the job".
AureliusMaximus
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I let this single mom speak for herself.
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Lol!!!! I’ve hooked up with a few and it was like a script. Every one acted the same.... suddenly become obsessed with fitness... try to portray themselves as an amazing potential wife/mom. Sending pics of amazing food.... always loves wine.
they would always bad mouth the ex... and if you hang around too long they will start trying to sell you on their kids. Ohhh Jimmy is such an athlete like me.. he doesn’t get his bum father... he would love meeting you .
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.