AureliusMaximus
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All boxes checked!
In other words, good reasons for not date single moms...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to be modern super (single) mom..
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All boxes checked!
In other words, good reasons for not date single moms...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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This has never occurred with me and I have dated many. Sounds like stuff people get from reading a post from one person and think it happens all the time.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It’s happened to me 3 times before actually.
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Seems like you need to screen better.
People don’t always show their true colors up front.
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That's why you have to learn to ask unrelated questions that seemingly have nothing to do with what you are trying to learn but are directly related.
This is a skill and a highly valuable one to have and to hone.
AureliusMaximus
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Girls are experts at this. Some can keep up the appearance for months even years until the ring on the finger... comes along offer by some sad sod of a gun.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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That's good. I'll add that this is more applicable to a single mom's swipe app profile. If a man is to meet a single mom via in-person approaching, she won't say "my kids are my life" within the first 20 minutes of meeting her.
I won't date single moms and there are many single moms in my age range. It's a bad lifestyle match between a childless man and a single mom.
I won't date single moms and there are many single moms in my age range. It's a bad lifestyle match between a childless man and a single mom.
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Should've paid attention to her stretch marks and lifeless tits.
AureliusMaximus
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Three different men for her children, mental issues and takes pharma drugs, twice divorced, post wall and even then she thinks she can put up demands for a high value guy and on top of that; thinks that men will sign up for the "application" to be a walking wallet.
Just wow...
The delusion is real gents.
But on the flipside; it seems that many women seem to operate like this and has no real connection to the earth they ware walking on.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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She looks like she might be physically attractive at 33. 33 is still somewhat young. 40-45 year old men would go wild for someone 33. Based on looks alone, she could get interest from men 33-37 and even some horny younger men.View attachment 10245
Three different men for her children, mental issues and takes pharma drugs, twice divorced, post wall and even then she thinks she can put up demands for a high value guy and on top of that; thinks that men will sign up for the "application" to be a walking wallet.
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Just wow...
The delusion is real gents.
But on the flipside; it seems that many women seem to operate like this and has no real connection to the earth they ware walking on.
The problem is her baggage. 3 kids alone is enough baggage, even if all 3 kids were from the same man. It's probably worse that her 3 kids were from 3 different men. It seems like 2 of her kids were results of 2 relationships that involved wedding vows and a divorce. For me, I eliminate all single moms from consideration so that fact doesn't sway me any more negatively. 2 failed marriages doesn't reflect well on her.
Having an OF is a red flag for an extended relationship but passable for recreational use only depending on the man's goals.
Despite all her baggage, there will be no shortage of men who will swipe right on her and no shortage of men who will agree to a date with her. She could even get a commitment from a thirsty, desperate simp. She's not getting a commitment from a high value man. Even most medium value men will pass on that.
AureliusMaximus
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Sadly that is probably very true. Some thirsty dudes will likely sell their soul and fill out the "application" and hope to "get the job".
AureliusMaximus
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I let this single mom speak for herself.
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Lol!!!! I’ve hooked up with a few and it was like a script. Every one acted the same.... suddenly become obsessed with fitness... try to portray themselves as an amazing potential wife/mom. Sending pics of amazing food.... always loves wine.
they would always bad mouth the ex... and if you hang around too long they will start trying to sell you on their kids. Ohhh Jimmy is such an athlete like me.. he doesn’t get his bum father... he would love meeting you .
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.