"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How one woman hacked online dating.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Props to her for putting in the effort to not only elucidate her own criteria, but also to figure out an algorithm to make it happen.

Many guys on this site would do well to do the same.

The better you choose up front, the less problems you'll have down the road.
 

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Anybody got the cliff notes? I just can't listen to a woman for 17minutes.
 

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Couple of good ideas, if labor intensive. Use dummy profiles of the kind of person you want to gauge the competition versus your own profile. Also average 23 hours between communication for women..

Otherwise nothing you can't get off so swauve in about 20 mins.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alternative: lose weight and dress better.

Probably too hard.
 

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Well, you're right...but just for fun I did what she did and back tested 13 women I've dated this year versus what I think is important to me. And it actually did confirm what this site preachs.
Girls I met in real life are all over the map for quality.
Match girls are good quality..may be better screening.
POF girls are terrible...again, may be screening.
Quality girls that are newer, have higher interest..reflects improved self..?
Two of the top four are current plates.

Nothing you can't learn here, but she has figured some stuff out.
 

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I was quite impressed by all that - glad it worked out for her.
 

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To me as a 45 year old...this woman is awful...frumpy, over analytical, unattractive...I wouldn't bang her after 10 beers let alone marry and have kids...LOL....online has made her delusional.
 

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Google "Amy Webb husband", have a close look at the poor fella, and tell me if her "success" is due to her l33t online dating hax0r skillz, or in spite of it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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