Dukester
Master Don Juan
this is just for reference, no logical reason for doing this...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How Much?
- Thread starter Dukester
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dark Nimbus
Senior Don Juan
Wtf?!?? Some of you would spend more then $50 on a first date? Even if I had the money I wouldn't spend more then $5-10 on a first date. I wonder how much better your chances of getting laid with the average girl are if you spend sick money on her during the first date. I'm guessing not much better then mine though...
rgeere
Master Don Juan
The only dates I go on are the ones where I have to run some random errand and the girl is along for the ride.
This means that however much I spend, I spend it on myself. I don't go out on dates "just for her" like a lot of AFCs believe that have to do.
This means that however much I spend, I spend it on myself. I don't go out on dates "just for her" like a lot of AFCs believe that have to do.
CapiCrimini
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what do you mean?
I always try to fit her into my schedule when I go on a date. Meaning if I'm going to so-and-so to get whatever and blah-blah-cafe` is on the way. I'd ask her to stop by there on the way.[well that would be what I would do if I actually went anywhere to do stuff.
]But errand to me means a car ride to the post-office to drop off a letter...?
Could you explain.
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I also havn't ever spent more then $20 on a girl for a date myself. The most I've ever spent was $30 and that was more my parents. She came with me to a theme park. Wasn't really a first date though.
As always offer to pay for her half, if she says she'll pay let her...
Anyway. $5-$10 sounds right.[including your expense.]
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Yeah, you are spending time with her while doing things that you would do normally. Meaning you don't go out of the way to do anything with her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
CapiCrimini
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GIRL: So when are we going out?
YOU: I crap at 5:01pm...ummm... so If you could be there at 5:00 I think I could fit in a five minute-r... sound good?
GIRL: Sounds great!
I got you though regree.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
I once spent $80 on a first date (dinner at some fancy-ass restaurant.) The chic really liked me and spending that kind of cash was completely pointless, but I didn't know then what I know now.
I could have totally banged that chic, but didn't because I didn't like her that much. I was also a major AFC.
Now a first date is coffee at the most, or just walking around or doing errands, rgeere-style.
I could have totally banged that chic, but didn't because I didn't like her that much. I was also a major AFC.
Now a first date is coffee at the most, or just walking around or doing errands, rgeere-style.
Dukester
Master Don Juan
i only spend about 5-15, maybe 20, depending on how much i like the girl, and how much she likes me
for those that spend over $50, u guys must be on crack!
for those that spend over $50, u guys must be on crack!