Dukester
Master Don Juan
this is just for reference, no logical reason for doing this...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How Much?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dark Nimbus
Senior Don Juan
Wtf?!?? Some of you would spend more then $50 on a first date? Even if I had the money I wouldn't spend more then $5-10 on a first date. I wonder how much better your chances of getting laid with the average girl are if you spend sick money on her during the first date. I'm guessing not much better then mine though...
rgeere
Master Don Juan
The only dates I go on are the ones where I have to run some random errand and the girl is along for the ride.
This means that however much I spend, I spend it on myself. I don't go out on dates "just for her" like a lot of AFCs believe that have to do.
This means that however much I spend, I spend it on myself. I don't go out on dates "just for her" like a lot of AFCs believe that have to do.
CapiCrimini
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what do you mean?
I always try to fit her into my schedule when I go on a date. Meaning if I'm going to so-and-so to get whatever and blah-blah-cafe` is on the way. I'd ask her to stop by there on the way.[well that would be what I would do if I actually went anywhere to do stuff.
]But errand to me means a car ride to the post-office to drop off a letter...?
Could you explain.
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I also havn't ever spent more then $20 on a girl for a date myself. The most I've ever spent was $30 and that was more my parents. She came with me to a theme park. Wasn't really a first date though.
As always offer to pay for her half, if she says she'll pay let her...
Anyway. $5-$10 sounds right.[including your expense.]
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Yeah, you are spending time with her while doing things that you would do normally. Meaning you don't go out of the way to do anything with her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
CapiCrimini
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GIRL: So when are we going out?
YOU: I crap at 5:01pm...ummm... so If you could be there at 5:00 I think I could fit in a five minute-r... sound good?
GIRL: Sounds great!
I got you though regree.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
I once spent $80 on a first date (dinner at some fancy-ass restaurant.) The chic really liked me and spending that kind of cash was completely pointless, but I didn't know then what I know now.
I could have totally banged that chic, but didn't because I didn't like her that much. I was also a major AFC.
Now a first date is coffee at the most, or just walking around or doing errands, rgeere-style.
I could have totally banged that chic, but didn't because I didn't like her that much. I was also a major AFC.
Now a first date is coffee at the most, or just walking around or doing errands, rgeere-style.
Dukester
Master Don Juan
i only spend about 5-15, maybe 20, depending on how much i like the girl, and how much she likes me
for those that spend over $50, u guys must be on crack!
for those that spend over $50, u guys must be on crack!