"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How many people here have enemies?

corrector

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I'd say most people are looking for weaknesses, and are there to take rather than to give, and will only help you when you don't actually need their help. If you let your guard down they will take advantage of you, that's why you need to always have your head on and some street smarts. There are no good people out there. Some relatives are enemies, but I guess not on the level of the Red Sparrow movie and the dynamics there, lol!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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touma.akagi

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I used to have enemies, but now all I really have are people who don't matter.

What I mean by that is, people who don't like me aren't my "enemies," so much as they are "people who complain about me with no intention of ever resolving whatever issues they have and thereby do not deserve my attention."
 

ubercat

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As expected insults and the usual weak attempt to get people justifying themselves. Case closed. The emperor has no clothes.
 

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I have haters. I don’t think I’ve got real enemies.

I embrace the haters. Those are people who think I’m better than them in some way. They are people trying to tell me what I am doing is impossible...whilst I am doing it in spite of their limiting belief...

So I’m disproving their belief system. People find that disruptive if they are too invested in a particular belief system.

I do not let static ideas limit me. It is best to be curious, observational, flexible and fluid in many things. My values are solid. My beliefs more fluid and changeable as I gain knowledge...learning and unlearning things as I go.
 

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I'd say most people are looking for weaknesses, and are there to take rather than to give, and will only help you when you don't actually need their help. If you let your guard down they will take advantage of you, that's why you need to always have your head on and some street smarts. There are no good people out there. Some relatives are enemies, but I guess not on the level of the Red Sparrow movie and the dynamics there, lol!
Why r they looking for weaknesses tho? I see this often
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The amount of haters that you have is an indication of your level of success
 
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