"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How many people here have enemies?

corrector

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I'd say most people are looking for weaknesses, and are there to take rather than to give, and will only help you when you don't actually need their help. If you let your guard down they will take advantage of you, that's why you need to always have your head on and some street smarts. There are no good people out there. Some relatives are enemies, but I guess not on the level of the Red Sparrow movie and the dynamics there, lol!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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touma.akagi

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I used to have enemies, but now all I really have are people who don't matter.

What I mean by that is, people who don't like me aren't my "enemies," so much as they are "people who complain about me with no intention of ever resolving whatever issues they have and thereby do not deserve my attention."
 

ubercat

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As expected insults and the usual weak attempt to get people justifying themselves. Case closed. The emperor has no clothes.
 

BeExcellent

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I have haters. I don’t think I’ve got real enemies.

I embrace the haters. Those are people who think I’m better than them in some way. They are people trying to tell me what I am doing is impossible...whilst I am doing it in spite of their limiting belief...

So I’m disproving their belief system. People find that disruptive if they are too invested in a particular belief system.

I do not let static ideas limit me. It is best to be curious, observational, flexible and fluid in many things. My values are solid. My beliefs more fluid and changeable as I gain knowledge...learning and unlearning things as I go.
 

sosousage

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I'd say most people are looking for weaknesses, and are there to take rather than to give, and will only help you when you don't actually need their help. If you let your guard down they will take advantage of you, that's why you need to always have your head on and some street smarts. There are no good people out there. Some relatives are enemies, but I guess not on the level of the Red Sparrow movie and the dynamics there, lol!
Why r they looking for weaknesses tho? I see this often
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MountainSlide

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The amount of haters that you have is an indication of your level of success
 
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