"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How Many Days In Advance Do You Ask Out A Girl
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
Sure. Sounds good! I normally ask 2-3 days before hand for a first date. For dates after that, sometimes I'll just call a girl up during the day and set something up for that night.SexinEar said:
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I second that!Lucas718 said:
IMHO there is no such thing as "how many days in advance" . .I opt on the side of leaving it open ended (i.e she can decide), but have a contingency just in case (I.e Sunday monday, or what ever you feel like) . .
Just (Want to have a coffee some time is ideal) . .
Now quit talking, and ask her !:cuss:
I knew someone would say not to ask her out for a friday, but whatever its the only day that i can really go. I dont agree on what someone said about letting her decide what day, that sounds really afc.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Lucas718 said:
EXACTLY!!
PIMP
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Why not CoFFEE???SexinEar said:
The philosophers elexir is not for you then hey??:kick: This is not the point there . . The point is here - nothing here is set in stone . .Especially as we are talking GIRLS . . .ImHO the most important thing is to go on the offensive . . .Old friend of mine taught me a nice rule regarding calling girls . . .
Yip . . ."Its three strikes and your out" . . .So call her three times, if she does not return , forget it and move on . .But if you call her twice, and especially leave a message for her to call you,when she does, then , she is back to zero, and the three strikes are back on! You follow!?
And if she calls you back . .I would say pick it up . .Don't stall and see if you can close . . .Otherwise, she may not pick up tomorrow, or her gold fish will die, and she will be too upset to speak to you . . .
Good luck and good hunting!:trouble: