"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How Many Days In Advance Do You Ask Out A Girl
- Thread starter SexinEar
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
Sure. Sounds good! I normally ask 2-3 days before hand for a first date. For dates after that, sometimes I'll just call a girl up during the day and set something up for that night.SexinEar said:
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I second that!Lucas718 said:
IMHO there is no such thing as "how many days in advance" . .I opt on the side of leaving it open ended (i.e she can decide), but have a contingency just in case (I.e Sunday monday, or what ever you feel like) . .
Just (Want to have a coffee some time is ideal) . .
Now quit talking, and ask her !:cuss:
I knew someone would say not to ask her out for a friday, but whatever its the only day that i can really go. I dont agree on what someone said about letting her decide what day, that sounds really afc.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Lucas718 said:
EXACTLY!!
PIMP
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Why not CoFFEE???SexinEar said:
The philosophers elexir is not for you then hey??:kick: This is not the point there . . The point is here - nothing here is set in stone . .Especially as we are talking GIRLS . . .ImHO the most important thing is to go on the offensive . . .Old friend of mine taught me a nice rule regarding calling girls . . .
Yip . . ."Its three strikes and your out" . . .So call her three times, if she does not return , forget it and move on . .But if you call her twice, and especially leave a message for her to call you,when she does, then , she is back to zero, and the three strikes are back on! You follow!?
And if she calls you back . .I would say pick it up . .Don't stall and see if you can close . . .Otherwise, she may not pick up tomorrow, or her gold fish will die, and she will be too upset to speak to you . . .
Good luck and good hunting!:trouble: