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How Many Days In Advance Do You Ask Out A Girl

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I'm never really shure on this. I'm going to ask this girl out for Friday and today is Wednesday, so im thinking today wouldnt be a bad day to call her. What do you think?
 

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SexinEar said:
I'm never really shure on this. I'm going to ask this girl out for Friday and today is Wednesday, so im thinking today wouldnt be a bad day to call her. What do you think?
Sure. Sounds good! I normally ask 2-3 days before hand for a first date. For dates after that, sometimes I'll just call a girl up during the day and set something up for that night.
 

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Personally I wouldn't set up a first date on a weekend if it can be avoided. You don't really know if you're ever going to see this girl again. I'd try to have the first few dates with her during the week and make sure she's worthy of getting time with you on the weekend. The way I see it, the weekends are MY time.
 

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Lucas718 said:
Personally I wouldn't set up a first date on a weekend if it can be avoided. You don't really know if you're ever going to see this girl again. I'd try to have the first few dates with her during the week and make sure she's worthy of getting time with you on the weekend. The way I see it, the weekends are MY time.
I second that!

IMHO there is no such thing as "how many days in advance" . .I opt on the side of leaving it open ended (i.e she can decide), but have a contingency just in case (I.e Sunday monday, or what ever you feel like) . .

Just (Want to have a coffee some time is ideal) . .

Now quit talking, and ask her !:cuss:
 

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Hahaa honestly i'm not feeling the coffee idea, im 16. I just called her and no one picked up. Yea i'm not gonna call again til tommorrow don't worry, if she calls me back i'm proubly not gonna pick up and wait til tomm anyway.

I knew someone would say not to ask her out for a friday, but whatever its the only day that i can really go. I dont agree on what someone said about letting her decide what day, that sounds really afc.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Lucas718 said:
Personally I wouldn't set up a first date on a weekend if it can be avoided. You don't really know if you're ever going to see this girl again. I'd try to have the first few dates with her during the week and make sure she's worthy of getting time with you on the weekend. The way I see it, the weekends are MY time.

EXACTLY!!



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Like i said i cant avoid setting up a date on a friday, but who cares this girl is extremely afc, she texts me asking if im mad at her...wtf?
 

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SexinEar said:
Hahaa honestly i'm not feeling the coffee idea, im 16. I just called her and no one picked up. Yea i'm not gonna call again til tommorrow don't worry, if she calls me back i'm proubly not gonna pick up and wait til tomm anyway.

I knew someone would say not to ask her out for a friday, but whatever its the only day that i can really go. I dont agree on what someone said about letting her decide what day, that sounds really afc.
Why not CoFFEE???:rolleyes: The philosophers elexir is not for you then hey??:kick: This is not the point there . . The point is here - nothing here is set in stone . .Especially as we are talking GIRLS . . .ImHO the most important thing is to go on the offensive . . .

Old friend of mine taught me a nice rule regarding calling girls . . .

Yip . . ."Its three strikes and your out" . . .So call her three times, if she does not return , forget it and move on . .But if you call her twice, and especially leave a message for her to call you,when she does, then , she is back to zero, and the three strikes are back on! You follow!?

And if she calls you back . .I would say pick it up . .Don't stall and see if you can close . . .Otherwise, she may not pick up tomorrow, or her gold fish will die, and she will be too upset to speak to you . . .

Good luck and good hunting!:trouble:
 

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If you can't avoid a Friday, then just go for it. If she's texting you then she's interested, so call her and set something up.
 
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