She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Sure. Sounds good! I normally ask 2-3 days before hand for a first date. For dates after that, sometimes I'll just call a girl up during the day and set something up for that night.SexinEar said:I'm never really shure on this. I'm going to ask this girl out for Friday and today is Wednesday, so im thinking today wouldnt be a bad day to call her. What do you think?
I second that!Lucas718 said:Personally I wouldn't set up a first date on a weekend if it can be avoided. You don't really know if you're ever going to see this girl again. I'd try to have the first few dates with her during the week and make sure she's worthy of getting time with you on the weekend. The way I see it, the weekends are MY time.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Lucas718 said:Personally I wouldn't set up a first date on a weekend if it can be avoided. You don't really know if you're ever going to see this girl again. I'd try to have the first few dates with her during the week and make sure she's worthy of getting time with you on the weekend. The way I see it, the weekends are MY time.
Why not CoFFEE???SexinEar said:Hahaa honestly i'm not feeling the coffee idea, im 16. I just called her and no one picked up. Yea i'm not gonna call again til tommorrow don't worry, if she calls me back i'm proubly not gonna pick up and wait til tomm anyway.
I knew someone would say not to ask her out for a friday, but whatever its the only day that i can really go. I dont agree on what someone said about letting her decide what day, that sounds really afc.